Boyfriend thinks i hate his son

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I asked by boyfriend and his son to move in with my son and I three years ago.Issue #1 Its always been a sore with him that the house belongs to me and that he is insecure about me being able to throw him out at any time. I have come close a couple of times in the heat of an arguement but I love him and I want us to work. Issue #2. Every arguement is about his son. His son is 16 and mine is 17. His goes to public school and mine does his schooling through a correspondence school through the mail. The one thing I did manage to get our boys to do is their own laundry. Its always been a comparision thing with my boyfriend as to which boy has a harder life. Public school having to get up at 6AM or stay at home correspondence school. My boyfriend asked me to let him handle everything when it comes to his son such as telling him to clean his room, pickup his towel, etc.The boy doesent listen to me anyways. I told my boyfriend that by him asking me to let him handle his child it closes me out. How do we become a family with these guidelines?
He saids that I am negative and to optionated when it comes to his son.

Is this just his excuse for lazy parenting? 24
Am I a control freak? 11
Am I a crazy, psycho,bitch? 8
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  • Q&A
    10 years ago

    See it's a difficult one. My parents split up when i was little and my dad would let my step mum punish or shout at me because he didn't want to. This lead to my step mum hating me and me hating her. I moved out at 16 because i couldn't be near her any more and 5 years later i have only seen her a number of times. We have tried to sort it out but the past cannot be forgotten. To me it just seemed like she enjoyed punishing me when it was actually my dad refusing to. He may just want to keep you out of all that.

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  • Redflameshoes
    11 years ago

    My stepmom used to try and "parent" my brother and I. Now that I'm older I see it must be a difficult situation, she wasn't trying to be our mother but treat us as she would her own child and its a fine line with good intentions. I think he may be over protective and feel he might not be doing as well as you or that you are trying to unify. Either way he should be more concentrated on becoming "together" as a family. And taking your opinion and view on situations rather than disregard them.

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    Your crazy...its HIS son...you said it your self...

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  • hafachick
    11 years ago

    Its his son, not yours. The discipline is his responsibility, not yours. You are the wife, not the mom (except to your own son, of course).
    If you stopped trying to take the place of your stepsons mother, he might respect you more.
    A blended family will never be like a "regular" family because the dynamics are different. Trying to make it so will only cause problems and likely cause the family to fail.

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  • trustno177
    11 years ago

    Tina

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