Boyfriend scared of "playing" with himself is it normal?

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I was wondering if this is normal. I am worried about my boyfriend. He is not able to masturbate until ejaculation, not that he can't ( He can) He is fearful. He has told me he does not like touching himself as he gets scared. I keep telling him its is ok but he is still frightened. He gets an erection rubs himself for a while, enjoys the feeling ,but, then he stops when he feels close to cumming. He has moved back to his parents after university and does not masturbate from embarrassment. Due to not touching himself he is starting to have wet dreams again. I keep telling him just relax. He is a virgin (24 years old.) I know that is unusual for a man these days. He is shy and just never met the right girl yet that he feels comfortable with until now. I am taking it very slow as I know he is anxious. He does not mind me touching him down there and being him to orgasm but he can't do it himself. I am still at university and I just worry bout him. He says he tries but then chickens out and gets scared.

I have asked him about it if he had a bad experience. He said no but I think something may have happened to make him like this and his fearful of something that is meant to be pleasurable . Is this normal? What should I do, any advice would be good.

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  • HOUSEELF
    12 years ago

    He could have been raped or trained at a very young age that this is a dirty area do not touch.

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  • Britton
    12 years ago

    Tell him to man the fuck up :)

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    13 years ago

    1) Does it matter if he has wet dreams?

    2) What is he scared of? ... the orgasm? getting caught?

    3) Can you give him a helping hand?

    4) Are you watching him jerk off? That may be an issue - especially if you're getting upset or scared that he can't do this.

    It'd honestly be better off if you just left the issue alone. Sometimes getting all freaked out is the real problem.

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  • dstar
    14 years ago

    Hmmm, its not normal, but its not weird.

    Sexual activities can be a scary thing, specially at first and if he hasn't done anything like this till now then it maybe of just built up the fear.

    I'd say just keep as you are and work your way to it and hopefully he will pass his fear.

    Oh, Maybe let him beat one off until he gets scared and then you carry it on for him, to show him its not scary? just a thought.

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  • matches
    14 years ago

    I agree that he may have had a bad experience and thus has anxiety issues with touching himself. Mabye he should try different way's of masturbation untill he finds one that he can tolerate to get him to orgasm. You don't get cancer from not masterbating!!!

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  • glocky_pop
    14 years ago

    he can devlop cancer from not letting it out lol

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  • wako13
    14 years ago

    He may have had a bad childhood experience or maybe he's just not comfortable with touching himself in that way. Just help him out. Ask him to try it again and be all over him and kiss him alot while he does. It will help him take his mind off the fact that he is touching himself. He also may be the kind of guy that wants his girlfriend to do it for him and touh her at the same time instead of himself. Whatever it is just make sure not to make him feel uncomfortable in that sort of situation. And take it slow. You guys have plenty of time. Hope this helps!

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