Boyfriend never wants to talk?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years. We are both adults (I’m in my late 20s) but he is my first real long-term relationship so I sometimes don’t know what is normal or acceptable or what I can reasonably expect out of a relationship.
He seems to only want me for his physical pleasures. I want to talk and share my feelings, learn more about his dreams for the future, etc. He always tells me that women care more about that stuff than men do, but still, it leaves me puzzled and hurt because I feel like he doesn’t care about ME, just about my body. When I have a job interview and want to tell him about it, or I have just composed a new song (I’m a part-time musician) and want him to listen to it, or when I try to initiate a conversation, he’ll just say, “That’s good,” or “Oh,” and that’s the end of it. When we don’t see each other for a whole week, the only thing he wants to do is take a shower with me or have sex—never talk and hear about my week or tell me about his. If we aren’t doing that or making out, he’ll just turn on the TV so he doesn’t talk to me. Sometimes this has made me cry in front of him, and then he says "You're so pretty," when what I really want is to not feel ignored.
Am I expecting too much? What can I reasonably expect from a boyfriend? Is this just a difference between men and women where men just don’t care to listen to and understand their girlfriends?