Boyfriend a little too attached?

Unhealthy - & nuts! He's turning his problems into yours. Bail. He needs to own his own problems & get help.

This is not normal at all. Even married couples are not like that. He needs to give you a little bit of space and he needs to understand that If he doesn't, issue him an ultimatum. If he still doesn't understand, leave him.

Honey get rid of him and leave the state. He will stalk you if you stay. Those letters he likes carving my be his on you when your dead. That,s no joke.One or both of you needs a job.For your own good and safety please get out. It will only get worse. Good luck

Sorry to tell you this, but he sounds very possessive and jealous. Not only is it not normal, but it isnt healthy either. And to the person who posted the comment above mine, trust me, you do not want a boyfriend who is like this. I had one who used to ring me about 50 times a day (no exaggeration), to ask where I was (even though he knew I was at work), who I was with, and what time I would be home. After several warnings, I told him to sling his hook. He is still single 13 years later, even though he has had several girlfriends

He is obsessed more so than anything else...
I don't think his using you, I just think he may have some insecurities and if you find them hard to deal with..

Run while you can otherwise you may end up in a trapped relationship even marriage where he controls your every move...

An obsession is never healthy....And if you cannot deal with it anymore...I advise you get out before it's too late.

This is not a healthy situation. I would say just leave, but because he actually carved his skin, it seems like it could be dangerous. Talk to someone you trust or get some advice from an abuse clinic in your area.Seriously.

It's awesome that you have someone that loves and cares for you so much. And to hear that his heart literally yearns for you so. But it is unhealthy. If you don't take initiative and set some ground rule, then their can really be some harm involved. Mostly against himself, but you don't know if he'll go crazy on you and force you to do something. Btw you should let him shower with you, reading i can understand. Open up a little more to him skinwise. Also it is severely unhealthy for him to scar himself and say all these things to frighten you. SO based on your description, it's your choice whether you see this as normal.. Not just based on your first time, based on common sense. I don't believe in too much love, but it is a very unhealthy relationship and you need to set some ground rules honey! So having abundant love is normal, but the unhealthy things he does for you isn't. If the only way for you to control his health, then you need to say,, whatever you want him to do less of,, and say "Do it for me and our relationship health." Aiight. Keep on loving him and don't murder his heart too drastically if you leave him. Sometimes as the woman you just need to give a man some intense loving to show him that he won't lose you. Okay hun, work out your health issues, and become more emotionally stable with him. Peace, Good Luck!!

psycho! Tell him to take a chill pill. (Are you his first?)

he sounds like the type of guy taht will hunt you down and kill you if you leave him end it now before he gets too obsessed lol i knda feel bad for you it must be really annoying to have someone over your shoulder every second but yeah break it off

No, that's really not normal, if my partner was like that I wouldn't be in a relationship with him. That amount of clinginess isn't healthy for your relationship, you'll just end up resenting him and breaking up. Have you talked to him about this?

PS - he doesn't love you. He's using you.

I woukd love a boyfriend that caring.

Not normal, and this is often the way abusive relationships start. Get the hell out of there now!

OMG! I am in this same type of relationship! I am so glad everyone thinks this is NOT normal. I keep telling my bf it's not normal and that we (he) need counseling. A counselor can tell him that he is way too attached and that it is actually hurting the relationship rather than helping it. I feel sick to my stomach now reading everyone's posts. :(

Dump his ass

Loving someone to much doesn't exist unless it's the wrong person..

LOL! (sorry i find this somewhat funny no offence)

Reminds me of my second girlfriend in middle school...she was pretty damn fine and i admit...i was a perv back than (Who wasnt?) but than when i stopped being a perv she started stalking me around...checking my youtube and stuff...fuck she still stalks my twitter and FB to this very day. She is very Clingy... $5 for her.

Sorry... but since you are not obsessive as him... you will never understand him... sadly.. you have earned a stalker and maybe a timebomb... thanks for ruining another obsessive pure love, normal girl -.-

What country is he from? You mentioned him having a native language you couldn't read? Not trying to be racist or anything, but I have had African, Asian, and Middle Eastern men try to fixate on me like this, and it is creepy.

thats seriously fucked up im sad to say, your bf is a true nut and if i were u id be seriously scared

I know I can't tell you what to do.. But, I agree with you and every1 here; he's too needy.

I understand how much he loves you and I can see that you love him so much that you are together for over a year now. But, he's demanding and controlling. It's unacceptable in a healthy relationship cause it seems that he's using your love to obey him.

And I thought my boyfriend is too needy when he wanted to know everything about what I do daily and texting me every 5 minutes.. despite the 5 hrs long phone call every night..

Well, it would really hurt him if you left him and will be so devastated as (Serafina) said. But hey.. it is you who's going to be emotionally hurt and weary for the rest of your life if you're looking forward to marry him.

Love is not everything.. but, there are some good qualities a man should have .. Independent, Responsible and Strong. Which I think he's not aware of..

My advice is too see what is best for you not him.

Goodluck

That's a creepy story and you could help him by letting him read your question on this page and then the replys. He needs help and a job! He must of had an abusive childhood or somehing serious happen to him. Good luck to both of you. He needs serious help. It's far from normal and the longer you listen to him and hang with him, the more normal it will start to sound to you too.

hunnie thats called obsession, something i've dealt with time and time again. when they begin injuring themselves you need to warn some sort of authority. when you end the relationship (if you choose to) you need to distance yourself from him, DO NOT become friends after this, as he will try to fix the relationship. carving the letters though... hes clearly unstable... be safe ok?

No way this is NOT normal whatsoever!!! You should get out before it gets extra cooky. Good Luck!

~Peace~

This guy sounds mildly psychotic, he's way too needy and possessive, people like this are dangerous, you should dump him.

some of you are real pricks an most likely need wide open spaces to make a big 'mistake' (cough* s l u t s)

He may not have the best methods in dealing with his overwhelming affection for you, but dont cast him aside if you love him.

Like Sxv123 said.. or give him the 'Your smothering me an goin to lose me anyway' speech. But not so you can run round behind his back an tramp it up

Ok he just doesnt want to lose you. Trust me im a guy.
Just tell him that you need boundrys and tell him that you will always love him no matter what. :)

im kind of the same me and my gf broke up and i had a panick attack and passed out i also has a heart palpitation due to a conditions known as "broken heart syndrome " where your brain releases chemicals to basically kill you it weakens your heart and respiratory system and its caused when you have a great loss such as losing a partner its where the phrase dieing of a broken heart comes from,

basically he has to try and get a hold of him self the brake will only strenghen his attachment with you cos he wont want to lose you again you have to tell him that he needs to calm down

tell him to try and be a little less attached in return show some affection to him and tell him you love him when hes getting a bit too clingy

but just dont start getting angry with him over it and frustrated as it makes things worse you need to be understanding