Bored of wife? no.. but definately something

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Lately I just can't seem to get along with my wife. We've been married for a little over a year and have a 14 month old together... by all means, I know I love her indefinately without a question, but I just like it better when shes not home when I get home! We both act as if we are just tired of eachother, and arguments arise so easily. Shes a stay-at-home mom, and thats basically all she really does... stays at home, and plays this crazy little computer game where you own a pet or something and have to take care of it.. (she in no way is a weirdo or anything like that, as much as it already sounds like it.. lol) she will play that game all day! anyways, she is a very attractive girl, used to be a model and could be still. I am 24 she will be 22, and she is still so very sexy in my eyes, as well as any guys eye when we go out. I am just mentioning this because I can rule out a loss of interest as being one of the reasons to why I just don't enjoy her company anymore. I wouldn't exactly say my life is miserable.. but its clear that it's not what it was a few months ago.
I was always the lazy one in the relationship, but for some odd reason in the last 2 weeks... we have totally switched roles. I have never seen her this lazy and when I mentioned it, i get a "Now you know how I feel" reply.. Ok, let me clarify our situation.. I work as an engineer so my job entails quite a bit of work. Obviously when I get home.. I am tired and lazy and just want to relax, and for good reason. But in her case, she is at home ALL day, I feel bad for our kid somedays because he has to be stuck at home with her, and she doesn't even bother to go out for a simple walk with him to get some fresh air. I can't believe I'm even writing about my life on this but I guess I just felt like seeing what other people had to say regarding two things...

1 - I know its cliche of a marriage to feel this way, but damn... that soon?

and 2 - How do I go about telling my wife that she should really get off her butt and start doing something proactive.

Anyways I am just confused with why I'm even in a situation like this where sometimes I rather stay at work than go home. Sex has slowed as well, and yes I know what many of you are thinking, that the decline of sex is a clear indicator of a downhill relationship.. but I am the one who just isnt interested as much as before.. either I'm too tired or whatnot, I masturbate more often than sex..

Ladies - why are you so complicated?

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  • jessicia16
    13 years ago

    the problem is your 24! ~ she should be with someone 45 or something ... guys your age are totally useless ( no offence) i never understand why some of my friends will date guys close to their age ... a guy should be 20+ years older before he's ready to give a girl an amazing and rich life filled with love and passion .... all other guys without almost any exception are just ignorant and lost in the growing up stage of life .... most girls dont have this problem , were just blessed with super EQ and guys are blessed with physical strength and visual IQ... anyway i cant give advice on your situwation ,,, but it sounds typically like you both have a crappy life and will be just another broken family in the future ... 20 years from now you'll probably be with some girl that was just born today ^__^ maybe she will be 20 and your 44 and you'll be ready to rock her world and both of your life's

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  • jbmitchell999
    13 years ago

    ^^ really bad advice. Trust me, I've been there. You have an infant at home - you have no idea how hard she works, or her feeling that it never ends. Try this: as you drive home from work, imagine how happy you are going to be to see her, and how much you will appreciate what she has done for your child today. You will be amazed at how big a difference this makes, and how quickly.

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