Bisexual sickness?

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I just recently discovered that I'm bi; there's this guy I've been with and he's really nice, can't think of anyone else I'd rather be with.

However, here's the problem. Whenever I think about things relating to the relationship, such as his looks, sex, or eventually disclosing this to my parents, I feel super nauseous, as though I'm gonna throw up then and there. This lasts until my mind has gotten off the subject for about ten minutes.

My friend has a theory. I had a hard life early on, with people thinking I had mental problems and such, and so he thinks I've built up hundreds of mental "barriers" or some such to cope with my problems. I was doing it to appear normal to the masses, and so anything alien or out of the norm is not permitted to get through the barriers. Bisexuality included.

Anyway, I really need to know why this is happening, how I could stop feeling sick every time I think about my BF, and how common this is.

Also, if any of you know how I could "come out of the closet" to my parents peacefully without making a big scene or something, let me know. This is important to me.

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  • kittyjibblets
    13 years ago

    well you're feeling sick because of the fear. lots of ppl feel physically ill when thinking about facing their fears. i've learned that the only way to face fears is to deal with them straight on. i don't really know what to say for advice but you'll feel better once you tell your parents/friends because you will feel relieved like a big weight has been lifted off your shoulders. people may judge at first but they probably will just need time to adjust. i hope everything goes well. good luck to you!

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  • Legion
    13 years ago

    do you like women too, cause if not, your just plain Gay. It aint easy to tell your parents that. (im not, but I could see how hard that would be to say if I was)If you are comfortable with your sexuality, let your parents know. They may not initially be comfortble with it, but they may loosen up to that eventually. They do deserve to know. Just dont go around flaunting your gayness, as that can be annoying. Good luck, And hope it goes well.

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  • ares29
    14 years ago

    I'm the same way, although I don't have a boyfriend. I like a friend very much, but he's straight so I'm not gonna mess with him.

    But, about your parents, you could ask them questions like how they would feel about it. I was joking with my mom about it and she told me she would kill me, my dad and my step-mom said they would support me and love me still. and that my mother would get over it eventually.

    I believe that if your parents will still love you if you told them. They may freak out at first, but they will eventually realize that if that's what makes you happy, then it is okay.

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  • ruralfrights
    14 years ago

    There's no easy way. Now, many may not agree with me and my thoughts/opinions are no greater/lesser than anyone elses, but I believe that bisexual is what people refer to when they are in turmoil. It allows for "some" hetero traits and at the same time, leaves room as well for experimenting with the same sex. Once you accept your liking for the same sex, you will then stop hiding behind the bs label and realize that you are in fact gay. Again, just my thoughts on the matter.

    Now, how does this apply now? If your still claiming bisexuality, then there's absolutely nothing to tell your family yet. Assuming you step off the bridge of experimenting onto the shore of acceptance of being gay (or straight), then you will be ready to talk to your family because you will then know for sure what you are. Until then, not a word. Again, just my thoughts

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