Billigerent boyfriend...

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I have a boyfriend, we have been together for 7 years and we have a son together. I have a love/hate relationship with him. I love him to death and couldn't imagine being with anyone else. BUT...

When things don't go his way (ie. the house isn't spic and span, i haven't cooked supper.. etc.)
he flips out, like bad. He calls me down, tells me that I'm fat and lazy. Swears at me and calls down my family. I don't know what to do anymore. My sister hates him, and I'm sure she wishes I would leave him everyday. Would it be cruel if I left him, or should I stick it out for the sake of our son? I think I love him and he says he loves me. So I think I need advice from impartial people.

In his defense he does go out and works for me and my son. He makes alot of money while I stay home and take care of my son. But could you fault me for not wanting to do chores when I'm sick? I have a cold right now and he freaked on me because the house wasn't sparkling clean. I feel that maybe that we have an unhealthy relationship. The times I love him the most is when he is sleeping and doesn't say anything at all..
help me please.

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  • Lizbit
    13 years ago

    RUN AWAY NOW!!!!!! Please before your son learns that it's ok to treat women, or any one, like shit!!

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago

    So he makes the money and, therefor, throws his weight around the house? Unless you're a full-time mom I don't know why he's controlling with you like that. If you're sick he needs to be calm enough to understand that. If you also love him the most when he's sleeping and not cutting you down - then YES you are in an unhealthy relationship. I'm dealing with a similar one right now. But, he's verbally bashing you and your esteem. There are men out there that do this - puff out their chests and manipulate their woman so much to where the woman will not want to leave the relationship because her self-esteem has been manipulated to be very low and, therefor, she has no confidence or WILL POWER to leave the relationship. If this prick doesn't want to go through counseling with you I'd divorce him regardless if you had a child or not. Your son will one day understand....but this is YOUR life and no one deserves to constantly been mistreated.

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  • johnedwards
    14 years ago

    If he sucks so bad go get a job and start paying your own bills. Even though he sounds like an asshole, you appear to be lazy and selfish.

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  • mexiguytex87
    11 years ago

    If you were sick then yeah he should understand, but that could just be your excuse, but if he talks down to you then that's just wrong, no man should talk down to there woman, I work hard and my girl works part time, I never talk down to her. He shouldn't call you names. Name calling is elementary. Now for you to decide what to do you have to ask yourself. Are you happy, can you live with this for the rest of your life, how will this influence my son, and are youu willing to change? Talk it over with him. Tell him how ya feel, tell him you want change. Everyone should live happy, if your not happy then make changes

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  • lilrebel80
    13 years ago

    Back in the old days thats exactly what used to happen, but guess what it's 2011 now and its no longer exceptable to treat women that way. If you really want to work this out then see a marriage counselor and hopeful he/she can help him be a better husband.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    There should be no "Love/Hate" relationships. Hate should be nowhere near love. Love yourself, and find someone who does too.

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  • heeraklee
    13 years ago

    talk about it with ur bf face to face. and if he flips out, break up with him

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You shouldn't 'think' you love someone

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  • meekacheeckax23
    13 years ago

    Honey break up with him that isn't right!

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Well no wonder you are crazy about him..sounds like a dream come true. And by dream I mean nightmare.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I agree with the posters. This is a pretty unhealthy relationship. Do your best to work it out for the sake of your child by getting counseling. If he won't go - go yourself & take it from there.

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  • munchikins
    14 years ago

    If your family doesn't like him, then he's probably not that great a guy. In my experience, family generally want the best for you (unless they're the type that NOBODY will do). It sound like you have a pretty unhealthy relationship, and I wouldn't want my son witnessing that. Children learn from their parents.

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