Big sister love???

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It has been me and my mom for years. We were sooo clsoe. Then my dad and her got back together and had two other kids. I am waayyy older than them by 9/10 years. But ever since its always been so hard for me to connect with them. I dont have that normal big sister relationship you see on the tv's. I am NOT mean to them but not nice either. I try to read them a story to maybe come off a bit sweeter. But the truth is im bitter towards them. i talk with them when i HAVE to and when they come to me with their normal giggly jolly kid stuff the jollyness that i return to them is phonie. I show them dicipline and thats basically it. I think the oldest one is starting to feel that. She tries to kiss me all the time and hugg me and cuddle me and i react as if she is trying to annoy me. When deep down i know she is just being a little sister. But the affection with them i can't stomach. PLEASE I WANT HELP WITH!!!

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  • awsomedude
    14 years ago

    i think its cute that you sister does that lol

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    how old are? Over the time you will get over it, specially when they turn adults too and you have things to share with them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I hope you have kept trying. You sound like a kind, decent & sensitive person who will be a great big sister to these children.

    I guess talking about what you feel bitter about with some friends, or your Mom, might help clear the air. You are allowed to have feelings - not all positive - about this change in the family.

    And keep doing all the right things. These two will appreciate it and win you over I bet.

    I hope you check in & update on how it is going.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      PS - you deserve attention too.

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  • Caps90
    13 years ago

    As a little sister I would say.. hug them back. Enjoy them being little and try to rember little things that you can tease them about when they are older. Your parents still love you just as much as they did before your younger siblings were born; Don't forget that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yeah. It's kinda like random kids living in ur house and hugging u lol

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    your normal.

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  • finniculi
    14 years ago

    I'm an only child, so I guess I wouldn't know too much about this type of thing, but every friend I've ever had who had younger siblings was just awful to them. Not just in how they talked to them, either. I've seen older sisters kick the crap out of their little siblings for no reason. I think it's an unfortunate yet natural occurence that will probably go away with time. As long as you aren't hurting them this isn't that big of a deal. Hope that helps.

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  • Orhlixyone
    14 years ago

    It's perfectly normal to feel that way. It's not ideal but maybe you just need time to realize that they love you :-)

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