Bf went to jail bc of me last night

so to follow up with the post that was made last night about my boyfriend kicking me out and locking me out with all of my stuff inside...
I managed to get in with a key that I had. he was just in bed trying to sleep, like tf. i mostly blocked everything out bc it was a lot but he kept spitting on me, calling me a bitch, cunt, said I was retarded and how my psychology degree won't help me in the long run, said my sister was smarter than me and said how he envied me bc my dad owns his own business and how his parents are only employees.

then, after all the spitting, he kept trying to pick me up, threw me outside a bunch and just kept touching me. I forget exactly what set him off to do this, but he choked me. 10 seconds with two hands. I ended up telling my sister about this (which was a mistake) and she ended up calling my mom and I guess my mom called the police.

the police came and they separately questioned us. I told them about the fighting and about the choking. I guess my bf ever denied choking me (of course) long story short they had him arrested. he called me about an hour later and ASKED IF I COULD BAIL HIM OUT. obviously, I said no. and that was that.

around 2 am he called me from his house, I guess his mom bailed him out. he started yelling and yelling at me calling me a scum bag and a horrible person for telling police he did that. the last thing he said to me before I hung up was, "if I saw on the news that u died I would laugh" and then around 4 am he called again and apologized. he felt really bad, and we both were crying. because now we really can't be together. I wish I didn't tell the cops about what had happened, I wish I didn't text my sister bc now I sent my bf to jail and he might go to jail for even longer if they find him guilty.

he called me a few more times throughout today, a lot of it was him crying say how he wanted to be with me and how he's going to miss me. it felt sincere. he's not someone to beat women up, he just has anger issues. he said he's going to get a therapist.

it sucks because from now on ill never get to see him. we want to try to be friends, but we can't be together. my mom forbids me from seeing him and his mom said that if he gets back together with me shell disowns him. I just hate that I did this, even if he did hurt me, I'm fine. I just miss him. and I don't think I'll ever get over him. to me I lost a good thing. and I know most people just see the bad in him, but I see good STILL. I just love him, he is my best friend

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  • TheManagement
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    FFS

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    • RoseIsabella

      Um hmm.

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      • what does FFS mean

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        • RoseIsabella

          It means for fuck's sake. It's not a phrase I typically use, but I think it's frustrating for many of the users here to see you complain about this awful guy all the time, and then when you are finally free of him you say you miss him, and you pine for him. This guy is no good for you!

          Your sister is a big blessing in your life!

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  • SwickDinging

    Is this a joke? I honestly can't tell. If you're a troll then hats off to you because you're an excellent one

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    • it’s not.

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  • RoseIsabella

    You say you love this guy, but what is there to love when a person treats you badly?

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    • he didn’t mean it. and he would never do it again. he feels so bad about it. he’s called me crying and saying how he doesn’t blame me. there’s also that very good side of him that i love... our memories, inside jokes. everything

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      • RoseIsabella

        If he didn't mean it he wouldn't have done it. Stop making excuses for your abuser. It's like you have Stockholm Syndrome. What he says doesn't really matter, what matters is what he does. He is an awful person who treated you like shit!

        I think you need some counseling so you can work through this. Like I said, I don't see anything worth loving about this guy. It's not normal to be so delusional, and in love with someone who treats you so badly. You need to forget about him, and learn to love yourself!

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  • RoseIsabella

    I know you don't want to hear this, but it's a blessing that you told your sister, and talked to the cops. That guy was nothing, but a loser, a user and a narcissistic abuser. You don't need him in your life, he is not a good person.

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    • i just want to be with him still. i’ll never find someone like him. and i blew it

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      • RoseIsabella

        No, honey, you didn't blow anything. This guy is a massive jerk and a douchebag that you don't need in your life. It's better to be alone than to be with an awful person. Honestly, I hope you never find anyone like him again, because from what you've told us here at Is It Normal this guy treated you badly, and was not a good person. I just think that you are afraid of being alone. I also think you judge and define yourself by whether, or not you have a boyfriend. Hopefully the next guy you date will be a better person.

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