Bf said this about me to tinder girls

he was fucking shit talking about me to some girl he hasn’t met on tinder. said the reason he broke up with me was bc i was driving him insane and that i stalked him for the entire relationship (which i didn’t i started to when he became shady asf and going to massage parlors every week) *he ended things bc he didn’t want to fuck just me anymore and he would probably wind up cheating on me* *he still loves me, misses me, but can’t do it anymore* RLY BITCH YOUR SAYING IM CRAZY AND THAT YOU MOVED ON!?

also! he said that he got a luck for his gun because he didn’t want me to get ahold of that?? he never got a fucking lock for his gun. he hid it in the closet on the floor. not loaded. but he’s saying california girls are crazy..... is this normal? why is he shit talking me...

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  • charli.m

    Ditch him. He's a piece of shit.

    And you sound batshit crazy.

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    • CozmoWank

      Lol. So true.

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      • charli.m

        I've reassessed my stance. I think it's the made up bullshit of an idiot troll.

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        • fux

          Yep pretty sure this is the same idiot with the 28 year old junkie boyfriend who have "dumped" each other about 100 times in the last 2 weeks.

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  • IrishPotato

    He didn't love you at all.

    Why do you even care? You two are broken up.

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    • he deff did. why would you even say that

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      • Boojum

        It must be wonderful to be able to crawl inside the mind of another person and understand what they're truly feeling.

        The only thing that's definitely true is that you believed he loved you. It sounds like you now feel a desperate need to believe you didn't get this wrong.

        You say you don't understand why he's doing what he's doing now. Can't you see how that suggests you didn't know him as well as you thought you did?

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        • he’s just additcted to sex and porn. and i think he’s reslly sad about me still. he even messaged me today and said “i’d be lying if i said i didn’t miss you around here” .. he missed me dude. this is hard for him. how could you fake a relationship for a year and a half.

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          • RoseIsabella

            If he is in fact addicted to sex and porn, and he is actively living in his addiction then it's best that you stay away from him. You really don't need to be in a relationship with someone who neglects you, someone who is verbally and emotionally abusive towards you. You don't need to be with someone who could give you a disease, and could get you into a crisis pregnancy situation. What you need most is to put this bullshit behind you!

            Check out this link:
            http://www.cosa-recovery.org/

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          • Rictictavie

            A year and a half is not long. Get over yourself. People stay together out of convenience all the time. That doesn't mean they are in love.

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            • how would it be convience

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          • IrishPotato

            I'd hate to burst your bubble but he really didn't. He sounds like he says those things to you to keep you craving.

            If I broke up with the girl I love, regardless of me being sex addicted or not, I would never be able to justify smack talking someone I love or loved. You know why? Because I actually care and love her. I wouldn't even dream of speaking negatively about someone I care about.

            Him smack talking you to random girls on Tinder certainly proves that he doesn't. Maybe he did at some point, I don't know, but he certainly doesn't now and going on what you're saying it seems like he hasn't for a while.

            Perhaps he makes you feel that he does, but I don't think he's being truthful with you and the sooner you realize this, the better.

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            • i’ve talked to friends and family about this and they have said that he is doing this to get pussy and for these girls to feel sorry for him

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  • Biptetk

    You’re hurt! There is no question about it. We get it! Breaking up may be one of the most traumatic experiences you’ve ever had to endure. In fact, some have said that a breakup is like a minideath. You may even find yourself going through these and perhaps other typical stages of grief:

    Denial. ‘It can’t be over. He’ll change his mind in a day or two.’
    Anger. ‘How could he do this to me? I can’t stand him!’
    Depression. ‘I’m unlovable. No one will ever love me.’
    Acceptance. ‘I’m going to be all right. The breakup hurt, but I’m getting better.’

    The good news is that you can reach the acceptance stage. How much time it will take to get there depends on a number of factors, including how long your relationship lasted and how far it progressed. In the meantime, how can you cope with your heartbreak?

    Moving Forward. You may have heard the saying, Time heals all wounds. When you first break up, those words might ring hollow. That’s because time is only part of the solution. To illustrate: A cut on your skin will heal in time, but it hurts now. You need to stop the bleeding and soothe the pain. You also need to keep it from becoming infected. The same is true with an emotional wound. Right now, it hurts. But there are steps you can take to lessen the pain and keep from becoming infected with bitterness. Time will do its part, but how can you do yours? Try this:

    ● Allow yourself to grieve. There’s nothing wrong with having a good cry. Shedding tears doesn’t mean you’re weak.
    ● Take care of your physical health. Physical exercise and proper nutrition will help replenish the energy lost as a result of the emotional toll of a breakup.
    ● Keep busy. Don’t stop doing the things that interest you. And now, more than ever, don’t isolate yourself. Hanging out with those who care about you will give you something positive on which to focus.

    Granted, the relationship you were involved in didn’t become what you had hoped. But remember this: In the middle of a storm, it’s easy to focus on the dark sky and the pouring rain. Eventually, though, the rain stops and the sky clears. Focus on you now not on you AND him.

    Hope this helps and good luck, my friend.

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    • thank you

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  • Rictictavie

    How do you know this stuff anyway? I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume you continued to stalk him even after many people here told you to stop. You are not making things ANY easier for yourself.

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    • i’m just still concerned. yes i am stalking him. because he gives me every reason too

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  • RoseIsabella

    He's not your boyfriend anymore, ya'll broke up. You need to put this bullshit behind you, and move on with the rest of your life. That guy is a piece of shit scumbag who was playing you all along, I'm sorry, but it's most likely true. That guy it is a liar, and a cheat so get the Hell away from him.

    Acceptance is what will help you the most. Accept the reality of the situation, girl. He doesn't love you, he doesn't miss you, because if he did he wouldn't have broken up with you to begin with, he wouldn't have been always going out with his stupid friends and he wouldn't be talking shit to girls on Instagram about you.

    Stop living in denial, accept the truth which is that your ex is a piece of shit, and a lying cheat. Try to move on with your life.

    I am truly sorry that this happened to you!

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    • he did love me. he just admitted he was a pervert and he wants to have sex with other people and so he broke up with me bc he knew he would cheat on me

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      • RoseIsabella

        Well, then it's probably best for you to try to move past this chapter of your life.

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        • i am trying my very hardest

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          • RoseIsabella

            That's the spirit!

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  • Usernane

    1st, I'm not really sure what was supposed to have Happened to you due to the crazy writing?

    And secondly, you DO seem crazy AF so even if he's a piece of shit, I'd say he made the right choice, and is better off.

    Have fun licking the Wallpaper :/

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    • i’m crazy? he made me crazy

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      • Usernane

        someone can't make you crazy, unless you believe your mind is that weak.

        Look at your OP and tell me the crazy shit up there with caps tourettes was because of this shit talking guy.

        You seem unstable though. Relax and just get over it. If he's that much of a douche, don't give him or the situation that much Power over how You feel.

        Try n take it easy.

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  • You just said you didn't stalk, then you said you did: "which i didn’t i started to when he became shady asf and going to massage parlors every week".

    He also said that California girls are crazy and I have a feeling that he is right.

    You can also notice how everyone is accusing and insulting him, while at the same time talking a lot of nonsensical stuff like: "he never loved you", while they have no idea what actually happened. So listening to them gets you nowhere, because you start arguing yourself with them, realizing how wrong they are by assuming shit. Welcome to the internet!

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  • JustMolly

    He sounds like an asshole. You aren't in a relationship anymore, what's the problem?

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  • lordofopinions

    I agree. He sounds unbalanced. Put the gun in the equation and that's a bad mix. Walk away quickly!

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  • bigbudchonga

    In all fairness California is full of feminists, you may well be normal, but living n a state with a lot of feminists must make you think all girls are bat shit

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    • how?? what

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      • bigbudchonga

        The part about him calling you crazy and "saying california girls are crazy," he's probably just had bad experiences so he's weary and is quick to call people crazy. I would try and just not let it get to you, obviously it probably will, but just move forward and live your life

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  • Ummitsstillme

    Chicks love a guy that hates on women.

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    • charli.m

      ....nnnooo...

      Women with low self esteem or who have been through abuse tend to be more easily manipulated by abusive men...

      But this idiot OP is increasingly outing themselves as a dumb troll, so...

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    • lordofopinions

      Get off the drugs asshole.

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    • Nah, chicks like real men. Not misogynistic assholes.

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