Bf randomly springs on me that he wants female friends

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is this normal? it’s only kinda odd bc we’ve been dating for like almost 11 months and he’s never mentioned that it’s annoying that “i have pushed away his female friends” and that if he wants to see some of his old female friends from out of town ALONE it should be okay? he said he doesn’t wanna cheat but some of these girls he’s wanted to hookup with before...? idk man. what do y’all think

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    If you keep your man from having female friends you will likely end up single.

    Your insecurity and lack of trust are not more important than friendship and freedom

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      why should my bf randomly hang out w girls he most likely used to like, and tried to hookup with.... without me

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        Why are you dating someone you trust so little?

        If he would lie to you to hook up with other people why wouldn't you break up with him right now?

        Also why would he tell you if he was trying to do something behind ur back?

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        Because they're his friends.

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  • Dustyair
    6 years ago

    Red flags popping up all over on this one. He wants his fuck buddies.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      why

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  • Anongirl26
    6 years ago

    I think there's two possibilities here. Either he wants to sleep with other girls who really does just want female friends but fears You don't trust him to have any and has just been too shy to talk about it until now

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      he doesn’t wanna sleep with other girls he said he only wants to hookup with me

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  • RustyKuntz03
    6 years ago

    Maybe he pushed his female friends away at first because you’re a jealous bitch and now that the novelty wore off with you he wants them back. Honestly if you don’t think it’s normal for a guy to have female friends then you need help. If he was interested in any of them then he would be dating them and not you, dummy. You’re pushing him away with your jealousy and ignorance

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      how ?!?! that’s so normal. most girls would not tolerate their bf hanging out talking to girls alone

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      • MrDexter
        6 years ago

        This is tricky. First you shouldn't be forgiving him all female friends because that possessive. However him saying he wants to bring around chicks he has the hots for is a total red flag right there.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          so what should i do if it arises ? i honestly don’t think he would... he if it did...?!?

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          • FilthyLoca
            6 years ago

            Look, allow it and put on a brave front, maybe this will be a good thing for you, if he cheats, you find out who he really is, if he doesnt, then you know hes a good guy and you, dont look at being cheated on so negatively, men cheat, women cheat, you should give him the opportunity, better to find out now than 10 years down the track if hes a cheater

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  • Tiaaaa
    6 years ago

    You're an idiot, the signs are very fucking clear. He wants a fuck buddy. Leave him, he's not worth your time.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    6 years ago

    You know, call me crazy here, but I feel that forcing someone to stop being friends with people they knew before they met you is... insanely jealous and toeing a line towards abusive behavior.

    If he was bi would you demmand he drop all his friends to appease you feeling insecure? Do you think it would be okay if he literally had no friends, no support system outside of you?

    That's absolutely insane. It's not like every person is attracted to every single other person out there. Let him have his friends sounds like he misses them.

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  • Maid_in_Pink
    6 years ago

    Again...with another post? Hun... How about this, I'll tell you my story.

    I'm transgender and have known for a LONG time, but when I was 19 and was still trying my best to hide and do the man thing I met a girl in college. I thought she was wonderful. Now...she threw up some similar red flags, oh I need guy friends, etc etc and I never minded at all. I never drove any of her friends away and tried my best to be nice to them all the time, meanwhile she actively told me she didn't want me hanging around girls.

    A bit different than you suggest your boyfriend would be but I know who you are and by how he talks to and treats you and I can tell you honestly if you showed up with a cute guy friend...he'd have a BIG problem with it...unless...He actually wanted to get rid of you or as someone else put it, he didn't care about you.

    Anyway, back to the story...so several years go by and I trusted her...I told her about everything and she decides to keep me on a short leash while demanding her freedom and then one day...she slips up and accidentally admits she has fucked around on me...and later after some talking that she did it more than once.

    The person that demanded access to friends of the opposite sex had been screwing her "friends" behind my back...off and on for over seven years...

    I know my ex isn't your boyfriend but he doesn't sound like a good guy just based on how he's treated you...I would not expect him to be a good guy around other girls...

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  • Handyman
    6 years ago

    While he meets up, let him know you are doing the same.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      doing the same what

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      • Handyman
        6 years ago

        Meeting an old friend, and enjoying it.

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      • insanebotv21
        6 years ago

        That's completely fucking insane BUT you could insinuate you are fucking around to see how he reacts, and if he's actually ok with you fucking around maybe he's just the kind of guy who doesn't see it as a big thing, and that sex isn't really a commitment as much as the actual relationship is.

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  • Firsttaste
    6 years ago

    I don't understand the ladies out there that think it's okay for their boyfriends to have Ex-girlfriend or female friends,Im a male and if I did that my intentions would be a Sexual get together, Stop all that Ex friend B S

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      so what should i say if he ever wants to talk / hangout with a girl without me

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      • insanebotv21
        6 years ago

        Perhaps some of his female friends are gay. Keep that in mind. Simple tip: if you wanted to be sneaky, you could make sure his female friends knew he's dating you. IF they're good people, they won't cheat with him, and if he's good people, he won't even try.

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