Bf lied about doing a drug for months

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so this is kind of a long story but basically my boyfriend told me literally like 10 minutes ago that he is getting off "kratom" in the next few days and that he doesn't want me around for the next few days... he is so adamant about being honest and gets sooo furious when I lie or go on his phone and that is he nothing but honest with me.. but he lied about what entirely he's taking.. he told me the name but said it was more of a prework thing that relaxes him.. but its pretty much an opidiod.. I'm so mad.. now he doesn't want to see me for 3 days.... he has been doing this for months too.... he wants me to go to AA meetings with him bc he used to be addicted to heroine.. HES A EX DRUG ADDICT. idk what to do/react..... I'm so sad.

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  • S12207
    6 years ago

    If you've ever been in his shoes you would understand. He did the kratom to get off of heroin which is a huge step and the fact that he is asking you to stay away while he goes through 3 days of hell to get clean is great. He didn't lie either kratom is hyped up so much on the internet and they make it sound like you mine as well be a heroin addict by doing it and that's not the case at all. Now look up methadone and suboxone while you're at it, but don't just read the bullshit ads trying to sell it. That stuff is much worse to get off of. He did the right thing by getting off heroin with kratom. Its really hard to watch someone go through this, but he honestly sounds like he's doing the right thing. Also, because he once was an "EX DRUG ADDICT" doesn't mean he always will be. You have to allow him to change.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      he’s been off heroin for like 3-4 years now i think. and he did kratom 6 months ago and got off of it while i was out of state. didn’t tell me about it until now. and did it again at the end of november and didn’t tell me exactly what this drug was..... i’m mad he wasn’t completely honest when this has been happening for half of our relationship pretty much

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      • S12207
        6 years ago

        I gotcha, I didn't realize it had been that long. I don't blame you for being upset about the lies. I watched a good friend go through something similar and it's really hard to deal with. I used to get so angry when I was lied to because I had been helping them get through it the whole time so it wasn't a secret so why lie? He admitted to the shame and guilt of it which I could understand (definitely doesnt make it right though) and that's probably what's going on with your guy? You have to be able to trust eachother if it's going to work out. Be positive and supportive for him and go to the meetings with him but tell him you won't put up with being lied to. Sorry you're going through this and good luck to you both!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          thank yo!

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    He's an addicts and addicts lie. I'll bet you would've been prepared to support him with meetings and so on if he'd been honest with you, but how do you know he's honest about his recovery from addiction?

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  • ClareBear
    6 years ago

    I can't offer any advice but didn't want to just read and run. Gonna be a long road. He's obviously struggling. He lied to you. It hurts I know. But it will keep happening unfortunately. You have to decide if you can be there for the downs like now as well as the ups. If you can't deal with it, then you have your answer. I couldn't deal with it personally. But that's because I can't cope with stress very well and I would get stressed so I would be making things worse. Maybe have another talk and set some ground rules. Like you say normally he likes to be truthful. Addiction is like a cancer. I hope you do what is best for you. No one else.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Kratom is pretty harmless. My ex recently found out her new boyfriend has been stealing from her for the last year to support his meth habit he lied about. This is pretty small in comparison.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Dump him for lying, because FYI lying isn't cool.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    This is pretty severe, in my opinion. You don't just lie to your partner for months about something that serious. If you can't forgive him and don't think you'll trust him again, leaving him is the best option.

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  • Pete1976
    6 years ago

    Lord that very serious

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