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Bf said he was going to a bar tonight and I said I hope you still love me bc last night he was saying he has tried to breakup with me cuz he’s weak.... he said he still loves me I just need to tone it down... but he flipped out and called me abusive and shit. Idk what to do
Tell him to beat you up, then beat him up and finally, end the spectacle with some hot, oily sex.
If you are insecure and needy, I understand his reaction and think it's pretty normal.
I think the age difference is the problem. Maybe you can find a 25ish year old guy that doesnt work, struggles through school, and gets parent's allowance just the same. These man gems with so much free time are hard to find though.
Maybe he will only go out with his friends just three times a year instead of four. He will more easily be able to prove his devotion through his undivided attention to you that way. Don't listen to the "experts"... 24-7 togetherness is the key to a happy, healthy relationship.
Independence is the true downfall of every good relationship; and in fact codependence is just a term naysayers invented that don't understand 100% true love. Only love and relationship hating monsters have friends outside of the relationship that aren't shared.
Don't fall for the bs of coworkers or family needing their own, seperate time; because all the best relationships are inseparable. True love doesn't wane.
plenty of room for you at my place.
drop that zero and get with THIS hero.
If you're the same 19 year old that keeps posting stuff like this, I'd honestly recommend breaking up. You two seem awful for each other, and this relationship doesn't look like it's going to work out with all of the problems you're having. (tbf, whether you are or not this doesn't seem like a good situation. You two probably really need to talk about this relationship).
Look, if you are the 19 year old who is in a relationship with the 27 man boy who has no job and treats you badly you have posted this "problem" around 3 or 4 times now, and you don't seem to listen to what people are advising you. He sounds like a complete and utter loser and you are also an idiot to put up with his behaviour.
If you want to stick with him, your choice, but in heavens name stop asking others what to do.
If you are a different poster, I apologise for the rant, but same sort of advice as you both sound too immature for a proper relationship.
Pretty awesome guess RoseIsabella. Now I feel inadequate as I'm also that age. I wonder how poor your opinion must be of anyone under the age of 30...
How old are you? Just go with him, or get a posse of other chicks to go with you to the same venue. It's a free country.
... but seriously, why waste time with this asshole? Are you afraid of being alone?
Yeah, I thought this was someone else. Forget about it.
Okay, now back to your conundrum. Why are you with this guy? It sounds like like he's untrustworthy, and doesn't want be with you anyway. You need to get out of this situation, because it's only making your insecurity and neediness worse. It sounds like you already have low self-esteem and lack self respect. This relationship is bad for you!
I think It would do you a world of good to be alone, and to work on yourself instead of being in a toxic relationship. Maybe you would do well to seek out some counseling? I pretty sure it would behoove you to go into therapy.
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ETA: What did he mean by "you need to tone it down". Are you abusive? Emotionally or mentally?
Apparently emotionally? But everyone around me says he is mentally abusive bc he manipulates me, calls me a cunt, retarded, stupid, crazy etc... just bc I don’t like him going to a club. I’m totally chill with him hanging with his friends. No prob! But it’s the fact he’s going to a bar when he says he doesn’t even like them but bc his friends go.... it’s just so stupid and idk if I’m in the wrong or if he is
If he is calling you these names then you need to leave him. No one deserves to be called these names.