Bf is making me clean his apartment

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my bf this morning texted me telling me that he was “going to put his foot down” and that i need to start cleaning his apartment. 1. i don’t live there ( i spend maybe 3-4 days there) BUT I DONT PAY RENT and he makes me leave a lot. 2) his apartment is a fucking pigstye and it’s disgusting and 99% of the mess is his 3) he never even cleans?!? yet he’s making me do it?

what should i do? is this normal if i only spend like half of the week there and he doesn’t even clean? just so lost

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Lestat565

4 years ago | pl

There’s plenty of fish in the sea. I suggest you go fishing.

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SwickDinging

4 years ago | pl

Just stop staying over. That way you can't be accused of making any mess.

Also start seeing someone else. He sounds like a loser

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  why does he sound like a loser ?
  
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  - leggs91200
    
    4 years ago | pl
    
    Well if he lives in a dump and expects someone else to clean it. Kind of loser'ish.
    
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    - SwickDinging
      
      4 years ago | pl
      
      Leggs has hit the nail on the head. He's a grown man but he's acting like a child
      
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    ... because he's a jerk.
    
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    - IrishPotato
      
      4 years ago
      
      For expecting someone who spends 60% of their life in his apartment to clean up a little?
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        4 years ago
        
        I feel like there's more than this story. If it's who I think it is then it's a big old mess.
        
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        IrishPotato
        
        4 years ago
        
        It's not.
        
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        4 years ago
        
        more to this story?
        
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    He sounds like a loser, and a user.
    
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leggs91200

4 years ago

Just call him and say, "Oh no, please don't put your foot down! anything but that!"

"put my foot down" what are we dealing with kindergartners?
he he he he ha ha ha ha ho ho ho har har har.

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- megadriver
  
  4 years ago
  
  Hahahahaha! Man, I'd pay to see op do that in a very forced dramatic way.
  
  I can almost hear a Darth Vader Noooooo in the distance...
  
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  - leggs91200
    
    4 years ago
    
    Oh my gyod hahahah :)
    
    I just I just hate that expression, it sounds so, well like a nerd trying to stand up to a jock.
    
    One time at work I was bitching about something that is a perpetual problem, and the manager said, "Well we are going to start putting our foot down". I almost cried I was laughing so hard.
    
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Tealights

4 years ago

End the relationship.

You're not his mom and you're not his maid, why put up with that kind of treatment. You shouldn't be loved just for cleaning his dirty ass home, you should be loved all the time.

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SkullsNRoses

4 years ago

He sounds like an entitled man-baby, he needs to grow up and clean his own apartment.

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Haru

4 years ago

If you don't pay rent, and you don't live there, you shouldn't have to clean it.

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dirtybirdy

4 years ago

Please tell me you're joking...

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  no
  
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  - dirtybirdy
    
    4 years ago
    
    Dear child....I'll give you benefit of the doubt here and believe you, and as kindly as I can put it....you're an idiot and he's a schmuck. Please move on with your life without this d-bag.
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      4 years ago
      
      The Bird is the word.
      
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IrishPotato

4 years ago

If you spend the majority of your week there, you can clean up here and there. Stop being such a bum.

For those who are gonna go off me considering the majority of the posts seem to be telling OP to break up, she doesn't exactly come across as someone who can write down an unbiased story and ask for an honest opinion. Take that into consideration.

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- NoLifer
  
  4 years ago
  
  You are basing this on what exactly? This is an anynomous post. So you are basing this off of some imaginary image based on your own biasness and probably sexism. Thats not a real argument. Your case is nonesense.
  
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  - IrishPotato
    
    4 years ago
    
    I was taking you seriously until you said it was sexism.
    
    Lol.
    
    For the record, I'm basing it on the story itself.
    
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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

Is this guy the 28 year old heroin addict who gets money from his parents?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  ya
  
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  - litelander8
    
    4 years ago
    
    Damn! Nothing about you situation is normal or healthy.
    
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    He's never gonna change. What do your folks think of him? What does your father think of this situation?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      he doesn’t say anything
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        4 years ago
        
        Do your parents approve of this guy? For as long as I've heard you talk about your boyfriend, and your relationship I've always thought that he was a massive douchebag, and that you are probably quite codependent and needy. You're wasting time with someone you don't trust who doesn't make you happy, because you're afraid to be alone. It's sad, but only you can choose to do better. No of us here can fix this for you.
        
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litelander8

4 years ago

I feel like you're in denial about this. If he has you over, he's hosting to you. A normal person would properly clean up after themselves even though you're the visitor. So, unless you go over there and destroy shit, it's not your mess.

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SKDM007

4 years ago

yeah fuck that lol, next hes gonna tell you you belong in the kitchen

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- WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
  
  4 years ago
  
  Maybe she doesnt work and he pays for her. If he's paying the bills and shes not working she should help out.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  what do u mean “fuck that?” and what should i do if he does do that
  
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  - Lestat565
    
    4 years ago
    
    What should you do if he does do that? Are you serious. Have a fucking backbone ffs. If he wants his place clean tell him to clean it himself. He’s an adult stop letting him act like a child. Stop enabling him.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      his argument is that i spend half of the week there and he pays for my meals and stuff. and all i do is “lay around”
      
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      - NoLifer
        
        4 years ago
        
        I mean if you are visiting his house and he gives you food its pretty custom. Though do you same the same when he comes over to his. He seems to dislike basic Sociol customs meaning he probably isn't terribly polite.
        
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      - Lestat565
        
        4 years ago
        
        Then stop staying over at all. Or a better solution is find a new bf
        
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        RoseIsabella
        
        4 years ago
        
        Yep.
        
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      - Ummitsstillme
        
        4 years ago
        
        You should contribute somewhat. Don't be a mexican pur se but get off your lazy ass and do something to help. He takes care of everything, dont be worthless.
        
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        4 years ago
        
        Mexicans are actually super clean. Big bleach users.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        worthless..???
        
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    Just leave him.
    
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chuy

4 years ago

😂

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jethro

4 years ago

Say goodbye and good riddance. Move on.

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

Pull ya finger out and clean it. 4 times a week is most of the time. You don't pay rent so pay your way by doing house chores.

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raisinbran

4 years ago

You spend 3-4 days there and don't pay rent. Yeah, you should be cleaning his apartment.

Why are you okay living in filth? Just clean it up! You're a woman, it should be second nature to want things clean.

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strangethingshappen

4 years ago

Why do u bother with a relationship

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WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

4 years ago

Do you work? Does he pay for you?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  i do work. and he doesn’t pay me but he buys me dinner
  
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  - WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    
    4 years ago
    
    He sounds like an asshole really
    
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Ellenna

4 years ago

How is he "making" you do anything? He sounds like a disrespectful control freak: why are you with him?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  he makes me feel bad if i don’t clean. and guilt tripping me into doing it. i did it today and he was thankful and apologized
  
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  - braintrip
    
    4 years ago
    
    Because thats exactly how people behave when they're trying to manipulate you. Pull one over on you, so to say. Stick up for yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    
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