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I'm just wondering is this considered normal... he didn't really hurt me he just finished inside me and I vaguely rembember waking up and going back to sleep.
I consider that something else but youu sound okay with it. Lets leave it at that.
You already know what it is you're explaining. If you have a problem with it then you know what to do.
just let him keep doing it. make sure you have plan b in stock or get on birth control
It's only normal if you said he could do it. My bf and I have an agreement. Lol I don't care. He's my bf I love him.
Oddly enough, relationship-wise, it's probably more common than people would think.
Common or not, he didn't have your consent, so technically it's rape; but you two are dating, so take this as an opportunity to have a discussion about it. You don't have to scold him, because he was probably intimating porn or something, but just let him know you're not cool with it or set some guidelines.
I think a lot of men do this! They wake up hard as a rock figure they will get a quick piece of ass and go back to sleep! If it bothers you tell him to wake you first!
This might be a fetish of his. Its possible he tried waking you but failed? If its something that bothered you, you should talk to him about it. If he isnt receptive, id be weary
The question is: Do you actually mind it? If so, talk to him about this and make sure you come to an agreement. If not, it might not exactly be normal, but whatever.
It's not really rape; at least if you don't mind. A friend of mine told me his girlfriend didn't like giving him a blowjob while he was sleeping because she felt like she was doing it without his consent.
Get a strap on, tie him up then make Your move. When he wakes up in the middle of this, slap him a little and tell him to call You Big-Ben.
So if you go a while without sex with him and then randomly get pregnant, you will know why
That is crap: if she wasn't in a position to give consent, eg asleep or unconscious, then IT IS RAPE
I get where your coming from but honestly there are alot of people that enjoy this kind of thing. As I think I've made pretty clear I'm not all that into sex but if I was in bed with someone and they came over and cuddled with me I wouldn't think of that as inappropriate touching I would like it. For many people sex is just another step in that chain. So if they have been intimate and its not like whoa what are you doing I don't think its really rape.
You just don't get it, do you: RAPE IS SEX WITHOUT CONSENT. That's it, regardless of prior intimacy, how the woman (or man) is dressed, has behaved or is behaving: RAPE IS SEX WITHOUT CONSENT. It's not rocket science. What you personally or anyone else would or would not like has nothing to do with that basic definition.
If the sleeping person enjoys being fucked in his/her sleep and has consented to it in advance, that is not rape. Also, it needs to be understood more widely that just because someone's body involuntarily responds to sexual stimuli even to the point of orgasm, that does not necessarily mean s/he is consenting to what's happening: ask any man who's been raped by another man or by a woman.
I'll say it again: THE ISSUE IS CONSENT, CONSENT, CONSENT: NO CONSENT = RAPE
Well, it depends on the country / jurisdiction.
In my country for example, a marriage certificate means prior consent to sex (permission and duty to have sex), so it is definitely not rape.
But you may live in an atheist country where marriage means nothing more than some economic stuff.
I don't think going all caps on me is really necessary I think we can disagree without becoming shrill. I totally understand what consent means and what its all about I know some people that are into things I would never want to do but its a consensual act. All I was saying is that without knowing the people involved I don't think its a simple matter but I don't think there are very many human inter actions that are simple.
She asked if it was considered normal not was she raped there for I don't think that answering something she didn't ask is going to be helpful. Many people ingage in the whole sleeping or sleepy sex thing and enjoy it quite alot maybe hes had that kind of relationship before so its not something he even thought about as maybe being wrong or needing to ask.
I've had bfs that liked to slap my bottom they never asked but I didn't object either I kinda liked getting attention in a sort of sexual way out side the context of being in the bed room so yea it was a normal thing we did but not every one would like. I think by your definition I was repeatedly sexually assaulted but the problem with the everything has to be 100% consentual 100% of the time is there is no way to have any spontaneous things happen. I think if I'm in a relationship and we have kissed alot like maybe been together for 6 months or whatever he doesn't have to ask me before he kisses me. I would never stay with someone that asked Can I kiss you? May I put my arms around while I do it? Can I pull you close with my arms? Etc. Sounds like having a relationship with a robot esp if it happens for every single kiss.
I don't know if you have a special line you draw at penetration maybe you do and thats fine I can understand that but the topic doesn't seem to be about definitions of rape so thats not how I took it.