Bf doesn’t like when i “invite myself”

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bf gets mad at me when i tell him that i wish he’d invite me to things that he does with his friends more often.
today he told me that on sunday he’s going to go over to his friends house sunday evening to do fantasy football draft. i asked him if i could tag along and he said no. it then gets awkward & we start to talk about things. he just tells me that he wants to go over to do the draft and then to go home and go to bed because he has a test on tuesday. i ask if it’s a dinner i wanna come and he tells me no gets mad at me because i’m inviting myself to things. it just hurts my feelings because i want to like his friends (i don’t really like them that much) and i feel like if i spent more time with them i’d start to like them more... idk it just makes me sad

whenever i “invite myself to things” aka me just asking if i can tag along he gets so mad. we’ve been dating for 2 years i don’t understand why it’s such a big deal if i come....
any advice?

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Oh my God, this is, as the young people say, "so cringe"! Girl, you need to leave that guy so bad that it's not even funny! Do you have any idea how pathetic, and cringey it sounds when people try to invite themselves to social occasions? It might be normal for you to want to go, but the fact that he repeatedly goes without you means that he doesn't care much for you at all. Stop being so needy, and clingy with such a piece of shit, loser of a guy! Don't you have any self-respect?

    Your pathetic, needy behavior with this jerk is destroying your self-esteem, and you aren't smart enough to see it! It's not like you can just go shopping at Target, and buy yourself a nice fresh bag of healthy self-esteem. You need some professional help!

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Do you have any idea how codependent your behavior is? You're only hurting yourself by acting the way you are.

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  • Bitmap
    4 years ago

    Holy crap 2 YEARS?! When I first started to read it I thought maybe you just started dating and he was getting frustrated that you were trying to be around d him 24/7 but TWO YEARS and he is acting like that? He's either cheating or doesnt give a crap about you.

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  • einexile
    4 years ago

    If you're going to have a long-term relationship it's weird not to bring your significant other into your social circle and try to isolate them. If you are obnoxious or you neglect your own friends, I can understand asking you to tend to these things, but for a guy to make a pattern of excluding his girlfriend from social activities suggests he's either interested in a woman who will be there or he just plain doesn't like his girl that much but is waiting for the next opportunity to come along before giving up his sex life.

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