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Is this normal? I'm clearly not.. he said it out of anger when I kept asking him a question he didn't want to answer... and it hurt my feelings becuse i have dyslexia..
That's an insult people use however horridly insulting to the autistic community and your boyfriend should not be calling you names. You should tell him his dick is small and break up w him also what was the question?
Why do you want to be together forever with someone who calls you names? What's up with this whole dyslexic/autistic thang. Is there some correlation with which the average person such as myself is not familiar?
Yeah well that is annoying af. Learn to respect peoples boundaries. It's no wonder he called you names.
Name-calling is childish, and your boyfriend responded in a dickhead way, but you say you repeatedly asked the same question, even when you understood he didn't want to answer it.
Since the common view is that autistic people can't read other people well and can be OCD, there was some logic in his outburst.
Frankly, what you sound like to me is a young woman. For some bizarre reason, a lot of young women believe that if a guy doesn't answer a question, it's because they don't understand what they've been asked, so the woman just keeps pinging away and demanding an answer. Unless the man is a saint, it's almost guaranteed that this will piss him off, or at least make him shut-down and either go emotionally distant, or physically remove himself from the source of the irritation (in this case, you.)
I don't know what the question was, obviously, but I'd guess that he didn't answer either because he knew you wouldn't like what he'd say, or because he didn't know the answer. Repeatedly asking the question is not going to change either of those things.
If the answer is very important to you, figure out a way to ask it in a way he doesn't find challenging, pick a moment when you're both calm, explain why it's important to you, and ask again. If he still doesn't answer, and he's not willing to say why, then you'll have to think about that.
I understand why some women ask that question, but I don't think it's a reasonable one.
If you were to tell him that you promise to be with him forever, would that mean that, if he got a job paying a fortune which involved living for five years in a place you really hated, you'd go with him? Would that promise mean you'd stay with him, no matter what he says or does? Would you stay with him, no matter how miserable he might make you feel?
You may think it's impossible, but even if you now believe your boyfriend is the man of your dreams, there may come a day when you realize he's just a guy, and his faults are intolerable. If you're very fortunate, there may even come a day when you meet someone who truly is perfect for you.
I'm a great believer in commitment. All my relationships have been long-term, or at least that was my intention when I went into them. But stuff happens. People change. There's no guarantee that what you need from a relationship today will be the same as what you'll need in fifty years, ten years, or even next year.
Try to focus on what you're happy about today. I'm not suggesting you ignore problems in your relationship, but if you focus on what you're doing today and do what you can to make it a good one for you and him, the years (and "forever") will take care of themselves.
Most men don't see that far... They see here, now and at most a few months ahead. Asking questions like that can't do anything good for the relationship. All that matters is if you'd want to be with him that long, and if the answer is yes, you'll be fine given time. Also asking a question like _that_ after trivial insults is nothing short of foolish.
Words spoken in anger always, always reveal more about the speaker than the one being spoken to. Whatever your boyfriend is projecting, his opinion isn't one that you should fixate on and suffer repeatedly.
It's unlikely you have autism, and it's even less likely that your boyfriend knows what autism in girls even is.
Don’t let ANYONE call you that. He may be your bf, but that is no excuse to say something like that. Either way, it’s not a bad thing to be autistic. I’m on the spectrum, high obviously, and I’m perfectly fine.
You shouldn't be offended by someone calling you.something that isn't offensive in the first place.
Your boyfriend sounds like a bitch of a a guy who probably has something to hide. When you repeatedly ask a question, and the person never answers it's because he or she is insecure or has something to hide. Either way I don't blame you for pushing the issue if the answer is extremely important to you. If he really doesn't want to answer the question he should grow the fuck up and tell you, "I'm not gonna answer that question", instead of calling you names.
My spidy sense tells me that you will have more problems with him in the future.
Maybe yes, and maybe no. Either way they are probably incompatible, and better off without each other.
Anger isn't an excuse for calling a loved one autistic. You are no hero in this situation, but what he said was over the line.
I'd usually just say that's immature and not anything you should be offended over especially since it was just an angry boyfriend. But that's fucked up considering you have dyslexia. Your boyfriend sounds like an asshole.