Bf broke up with me bc he wants to be single

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my bf broke up with me yesterday bc he wants to be single and expierence life single and to not have to worry about being in a relationship. idk why he thinks like this. he’s 27 and i’m 19. we’ve been dating for a year and a half and he says he still loves me. i’m just so confused and so sad. he still wants to be friends and said he doesn’t want to delete me off of social media.

he also said he doesn’t want to delete our relationship status either.. which is odd but i don’t care. i still love him.

i’m going to his house tomorrow to get my stuff and have one last night with him.

even tho we may still hangout and do things. i’m just so sad

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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

Cut him off completely. If he wants to end a relationship just because “he wants to be single”, he’s not worth your time.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  why do you think that he wants to even tho he still loves me
  
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  - IrishPotato
    
    5 years ago
    
    I think he still wants the status on Facebook because of either social stigma or to keep the option of going back to you open.
    
    Honestly feels abusive, you need to consider whether or not you'll allow yourself to be treated like that.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      i guess i’m ok with it.. just confusing:( and i’m really sad
      
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      - IrishPotato
        
        5 years ago
        
        Obviously it's sad. Seeing the status yourself though can be destructive, if I were in your place... well, I'd want to keep it active too. But I would also know better than to torture myself like that so, it's best to remove it.
        
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    5 years ago
    
    I don’t think he does love you. Many guys do this when they want to cheat, from what I’ve heard anyway.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      he said it wasn’t about sex
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      so why breakup ....?
      
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megadriver

5 years ago

You poor girl. Drop it baby. Forget about him. I'm 25 and I know these games. I'm ashamed to say I've done something like this in the past... This guy doesn't care about you. He got good moments and good sex and that was it. He thought, he could "get more" and he did. He didn't love you really.

Sorry I'm this blunt, but I'm being honest. Forget about the guy. Go liven yourself up, call some friends and go out, have some fun.

You deserve better. That's a shit thing to say. It literally means he wants to go and have easy sex with other women. I've also been a dumbass when I was 22. Glad I met my first big love to put me back into shape. Promising a girl the world and then breaking her heart is not cool.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  no he does love me. i guess we’re just not compatible haha. he still loves me and considers me a best friend... but for some reason he just wants to be single
  
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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

thank you

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IrishPotato

5 years ago

I agree with zombies.

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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

Finally... YAGETE! It's over.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  how
  
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NormalIsAsNormalDoes

5 years ago

He's keeping the fb status because he wants to keep you but see other people at the same time. How are you going to feel if you find out he's hooking up with other girls?

Yes he likely still has feelings for you but he's not committed to you which means you need to cut him off and move on.

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MR.mr

5 years ago

Several things
1. that's too much of an age difference for someone as young as you.
2. He wants to still be around you and keep your relationship status online so he can fuck other girls and still come home to you and keep other guys away.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  we dont live together
  
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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

well it’s on his page too.. why do you think he wants to keep it up

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- kupokupo
  
  5 years ago
  
  He can get those trashy chicks easier if he appears to already be in a relationship.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    5 years ago
    
    how tho
    
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    - IrishPotato
      
      5 years ago
      
      It's true. Particular type of women often desire the unavailable more than the available.
      
      Single guys are everywhere but... seducing that taken guy? It'll be an accomplishment.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        5 years ago
        
        i don’t think he thinks like that
        
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        IrishPotato
        
        5 years ago
        
        I don't think so in this particular case but I do think he's trying to keep you on an imaginary leash.
        
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lordofopinions

5 years ago

You go girl! Get out there and experience other guys but don't committ to one until you have played the field some. When you have run all the bases then you will have a better idea. Your ages was one thing that was getting in the way.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  why???
  
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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

All the whores here: "You poor soul, men are guilty of everything in life". You got yourself a man who is 8 years older. Now you aren't happy. Most women who did this feel the same. It doesn't work most of the time. There is no blaming. Continue your life and look for a better partner.

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- nikkiclaire
  
  5 years ago
  
  Do you know who this poster is Dave. Her "boyfriend" is a drug addict, who lives on an allowance from his parents. He is hardly a winner or a man.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    5 years ago
    
    lol thanks
    
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    5 years ago
    
    And she got in a relationship with him. Now she is facing the obvious consequences. You get in a relationship like this then you wonder what's wrong?? But yes, you have to do your "ALL MEN ARE PIGS" shitty propaganda.
    
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    - nikkiclaire
      
      5 years ago
      
      I actually love men. I am just not keen on you.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        5 years ago
        
        Yeah I know you love dicks. You never hesitated to tell us this aspect. Please stop begging for cock, we all know it already. It's the billionth time you let us know.
        
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        5 years ago
        
        Slow down on the booze today dave.
        
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      5 years ago
      
      Oh so it’s her fault he’s a jerk?? And you can’t help who you fall in love with.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        5 years ago
        
        By this logic you can fall in love with a pimp and then it's not your fault for being pimped. You can control absolutely everything you do by free will without constraints. You know he's a dick, stop it and forget him or go for him and watch the disaster
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  why doesn’t it work out cuz he’s 8 years older?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    5 years ago
    
    It is not a direct implication that it doesn't work. It's more of a correlation. Most of the time you will be disappointed. Older people have more experience and they know more things. They can (ab)use this experience against you. Many times this happens. Of course it's not always true, but it is a fact that can't be denied. You ended up suffering from this, so you were tricked by one of these people. The society has some values and expectations. When they don't approve these kind of relationships, they have a reason for that. This is the reason.
    
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TheManagement
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5 years ago

Please watch this again:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhL8rBt8Y1A

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nikkiclaire

5 years ago

He did you a favor hun. He wants you as a friend so you can be a booty call. Please do yourself a favor and don't let him. Cut off all contact.

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jack_shephard

5 years ago

Yepp! it's pretty normal you should try it too,it's fun sometimes to take a break from all that relationship stuff.

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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

It's normal that you feel bad about this rejection and percieved abandonment, but I want to invite you to think of this differently. I want invite you to think of this as a sort of emancipation, and choose to congratulate yourself on your freedom. I think things would have been better had you chosen to break up with him instead of letting him call the shots, but least now you can be rid of him. He was a no good loser, and you are better off without him! You're blinded by hurt and pain right now, but believe me you are better off without him, and things will get better!

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- Boojum
  
  5 years ago
  
  If the OP is who I think she is, you're absolutely right. The only mystery is why it has taken so long for this to happen.
  
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  - Godtism
    
    5 years ago
    
    This is fake and possibly someone's fetish.
    "She" claimed he broke up with her 2 weeks ago already.
    
    https://www.isitnormal.com/post/bf-broke-up-with-me-but-still-loves-me-267925#comment-2665804
    
    Now claiming it happened "yesterday". lol what?
    How much you wanna bet that having "one last night" means they're going to get back together? Guess we'll find out the next time this is posted.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      he has broken up with me 6 times the past 2 weeks so
      
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      - Godtism
        
        5 years ago
        
        Meaning you have gotten back with him 6 times in 2 weeks so
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        5 years ago
        
        what do you mean
        
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    - nikkiclaire
      
      5 years ago
      
      Who knows if it or isn't but we know her and we gaf.
      
      I hope the goal of this website is to help one another. Regardless of how dense this girl is. Sorry i talk like a sailor.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        5 years ago
        
        he broke up with me like 5 times
        
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      - Godtism
        
        5 years ago
        
        I have no idea what you're saying tbh but "we" have tried to help her, she doesn't listen and likely will just reply with something like "lol" or "who me?" to this, as per usual. It's starting to feel like a troll at this point.
        
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        nikkiclaire
        
        5 years ago
        
        We being regular site users
        
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        nikkiclaire
        
        5 years ago
        
        I would have thought that and did. I don't believe that any more. I may be wrong
        
        Regarless we know this story arch. That was my point.
        
        And if she is real, we are here for her.
        
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    I think, in my not so humble opinion, that she really wanted it to work out even though the guy is clearly a massive douchelord.
    
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      5 years ago
      
      Yep. I agree.
      
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bigbudchonga

5 years ago

I don't know why everyone are being so negative and toxic about your relationship when I don't see how they could know anything about it. It's good that it's ended in a more positive way then a hell of a lot of relationships do. Naturally you're going to be hurt, but I would recommend staying in contact if it's not too painful, if it is then just explain to him, he sounds like he would understand. Look for other people and try to move on, that would be my advice.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  why should i stay in contact w him?
  
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  - bigbudchonga
    
    5 years ago
    
    Because he seems nice in the way he's ended it, and I imagine you like him as a person or you wouldn't' have still been going out with him
    
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- nikkiclaire
  
  5 years ago
  
  She has posted here over and over for months on end. We know who she is.
  
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  - bigbudchonga
    
    5 years ago
    
    What's he done that's wrong
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      end a fucking almost 2 year relationship bc he wants autonomy and to be single
      
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      - bigbudchonga
        
        5 years ago
        
        He has the right to do that, he doesn't have to stay in a relationship he doesn't want to be in
        
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  - insanebotv21
    
    5 years ago
    
    "he’s 27 and i’m 19."
    
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    - bigbudchonga
      
      5 years ago
      
      So?
      
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    - nikkiclaire
      
      5 years ago
      
      😂 Yes. But she is a person with feelings and I do feel bad. Even tho we warned her. I want her, to be happy.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        5 years ago
        
        thanks. i just feel like i’m not gonna be happy for awhile. even tho he wants to stay friends
        
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Nickvey

5 years ago

he doesn't hate you he just wants to spend sexual time with other women. that what the term" wants to be single" means . go get your stuff so he can move his new bimbo in with him. you are 19 and have an opportunity here to drop 50 pounds and get hot again like you were when you were 13. think of all the 18 year olds you can now fuck that distanced themselves from you in high school. you know the score with guys . he can do better than you thats all. dont take none of it personal . at your age one penis is as good as the next. you can even try some black dick now. Boo hoo hoo he was the only guy for you. well honey i think time has proven he is not.

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  it’s not about sex. we love each other
  
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