Better single?

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I use to want to be in a relationship but with all the crap I had to go through with the people I was with, discourages me. In addition to having to hear my friends and family vent about their relationship problems or see them making themselves suffer for someone just makes me want to stray away from commitment.

I've seen so many ranging problems from it such as them wanting to control you, having someone judge you all the time, having to tend to their needs/yours, getting hurt or hurting them etc. It just seems to be more of a burden and outweighs the negatives of being single and alone.

Is it normal for me to think this way?

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Based on 57 votes (45 yes)
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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    I will tell you a secret. Idealized love is pointless and not going to happen. When you have a partner it should be of equal or lesser benefit. Each gains something from the relationship and if not your partner is a parasite.

    Many people in this world do not want to commit anymore as the idea of "Free love" sweeps the nation. Even if you are willing to go the distance they will leave you over something as simple as "Oh I got bored" and change every few months.

    Chemistry is the key. Find someone who you are compatible with and trap them. I do not mean ruin the self esteem of this person. Find someone who needs the qualities you have and has things that highlight your qualities. That way they have something to lose if they leave.

    So they are stuck with you since you have the missing piece of the atom they have been looking for. Also never abuse your partner psychologically or psychically. You are hurting yourself even more not only them. That is the true meaning of chemistry. Not if you both like dogs!

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  • yotaisgame1
    12 years ago

    Once your in love none of that stuff will matter. You'll do anything and everything for her and like it.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Remain single and independent. Someone special will come along and break down that barrier you've built.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I partially have the same mentality. However, it's better to makes your own judgements than let others make them for you. I understand that being single does seem kind of nice but I suggest trying it first and seeing how it works out for you. Although, given what you hear, I don't blame you for thinking relationships are bad. They can be good though, maybe the people around you just haven't found the right person yet.

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  • LightningTechnician
    12 years ago

    Yeah it's pretty normal I'd say.

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