Best friend kind of cheating

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My best friend (guy) has been on and off about four times with my other best friend (girl). Well, in the downtime between their breakups, my guy best friend texts my girl best friend's best friend dirty things, asking her to do sexual things with him, and is overall being inappropriate. He doesn't know I know. His on/off girlfriend doesn't know either because her best friend won't tell her, even though she doesn't act on anything he says and continues to tell him no.

Anyway, is this normal for him to be doing this? What should I do? I don't want to ruin any of my friendships, but I also don't want to just sit around and watch this happen because I do care about my girl best friend more, and she can never seem to get over him and goes on and on about how she trusts him and how much she loves him. I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want her to be wasting her time with a jerk... even if he is a close friend of mine.

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Based on 48 votes (15 yes)
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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Mind your own business.

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    • davesumba
      11 years ago

      Mine ya biness, thats all, mine ya biness.

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      • helpmeonly
        9 years ago

        mine ya own biness

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    Leave it alone. In the end, you will lose friends for exposing this.

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    • foxyk
      11 years ago

      i agree. i have been in such a situation. it was a bit worse because my best friend(guy) was dating this girl (just a friend, we were not that closE)...and she was dating her ex boyfriend still. i got in the middle and ended up being " the bad guy" of the situation. which pissed me off and now i am not friends with either of them, and she is probably still cheating on him! HA

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      • PapzBSlim
        11 years ago

        Oh man, that really sucks. What you experienced is usually what happens to the middle person. They both end up staying together because they don't believe it or one forgives the other and you are at a loss for friends.

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        • MmmHmm
          11 years ago

          I got another person that is unrelated to either of them use Verizon's site to send an anonymous text to the girl. So now I won't be lying when I say that I didn't send it to her, and she can still find out. Although, I don't know if she received it or if she will even care because she's very stubborn and feels like she always has to defend her man.

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          • PapzBSlim
            11 years ago

            Well I supposed the only thing you can do is just let her be. Some people like to be naive and some like to have that drama in their lives. Without drama they would get bored.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    if its on/off/on/off and this happens when they're broken up then it's probably not that serious of a relationship in the first place, and not that big a deal, don't worry about it and leave it alone.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Just tell her the truth.

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  • normalhuman
    11 years ago

    Tell HIM that you know about and he better stop it or you'll tell her. If he doesn't stop then tell her. He'll be like saying "go on, tell her".

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I would tell her. I think it's the right thing to do if you want to minimise the pain his actions are causing.

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    I think it depends who's doing the breaking up in these on and off times. If the guy's doing so and then going and trying to screw around with the friend, that's sad. If the girl is asking for the time off, then he's being a bit insensitive, but he's really not doing anything objectively wrong.

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    • MmmHmm
      11 years ago

      He is the one that breaks up with her every single time, which is why it is so annoying when she goes crawling back to him every time. I guess I want a way to solve all this without having to tell her the truth since that is really between her, her best friend, and her boyfriend.

      Should I speak to him about this? He is a close friend of mine as well.

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      • q25t
        11 years ago

        I would say talking to him may be the best solution here. It generally isn't good policy to get involved in your friends' relationships but in this case, I think it might be okay.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes this happened to me too.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      dude, i've just seen your profile picture. You're in really good shape! lol

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