Best friend doesnt want to know me anymore

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Is it normal for your best friend to shun you after finishing University?

My best friend, who i have been friends with since early school days, has just finished Uni and does not want to hang out with me anymore.

We have been friends for over 16 years and did everything together. I used to think our bond was really strong as if we had any issues withlife we could talk to each other and sort it out.

But since they went to university everything has changed, meeting up has been hard mainly due to the distance and i work full time. When we were together it was like old times.

But since they have finsihed Uni it feels like i am forgotten about and left behind. They are back in my home town where we grew up and not even with their Uni friends. I havent been invited out or talked too, none of "our" friends have spoken to me, its like because they have all gone to uni the non uni person is an outcast :-(

I feel heart broken as to why i have been shunned and left in the dark and makes me very upset to loose such a good friend and not being able to have such a good time in years to come.

Do friendships loose their "bonds" over time and naturally you have to look for new ones? Any advise would be welcome, except people who have no valuable intellect to add a decent comment.

Thanks

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  • diddlyo
    13 years ago

    Happens all the time :\ Let's face it buddy, we're all grown up now.

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  • Blackle9
    13 years ago

    Well I am 12 and I know I will get my account deleted shortly...but anyway I don't know what university is like but if u have been friends for a long time yes you probably would have a strong bond. So I personally don't think you should not be friends if you try and get over it it probably won't work the best thing I can think of to do is if you haven't had you're 21 birthday yet you could invite him to that and have a chat to him and maybe remind him of the fun times you have had together and possibly he would start to notice you and not ignore you and you will have it like you want it....I know all of that sounds WAY to kiddy and cheesy but i am a kid and that's the best I got and if u have already of had you're 21st then you could wait for a special accession to invite him and some other friends because it will be pretty weird if you just invite him....so yea good luck on it :D

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I have been a little distant with my oldest friend since he moved away. I don't mean to be and I do want to set things right and get back to the friendship we had. He is the only person who I've known since I was five years old and it's important to me that I retain our bond, and yet I've slipped. My advice to both myself and to you is to try harder. Any friendship or even relationship relies on someone to sustain it, no matter who that person may be.

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