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Here's my dilemma...it's nothing huge, but it does bother me somewhat. My best friend and I have known each other for three years, and about three months ago, our close friendship evolved into something a little bit more. We don't like to use the words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", because they seem so childish. But we have a loyalty and a love for each other. I'm not "in love" with him, as I have been with others before. There's no heart-thumping, constant daydreaming, or anything like that. I simply love him.
Something that's odd about us is neither of us like public displays of affection. We've always hugged in public, but he and I hug lots of people, not just each other. But we don't hold hands, and we never kiss in public. I've always considered kissing in public a bit tacky, and hand-holding seems childish as well. Girls who did that always annoyed me, as if they were yelling, "Look at me! I have a boyfriend!", like adolescents.
So, what say you? Is this weird, or am I on to something here?

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  • maskedman
    12 years ago

    Friends with benefits... That's pretty much the description.

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    • gaelicwolf
      12 years ago

      That would imply that we have a sexual relationship, which was not stated in my question.

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    How old are you guys?

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    No, your fine and I am speaking from personal experience as a 29 year old.

    I have been in one bad relationship after another and after the last one ended, I said to hell with it and started dating my friend from work. Shes rather obsese and sometimes unattractive and I do not find her as sexy as my previous girlfriends.

    However, she is my best friend ever and we get along without arguing and respect the other completely. We have been together for years now and although that "heavy love" thing was never there and I doubt it ever will be, I am truly happy to be with her and don't regret giving her a chance.

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    All in all, you are in the best type of relationship possible so stick with him and just be happy. The good guys, like myself, are truly worth it in the end and those piece of shit "bad boys" are nothing but a nuisence.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Since your relationship is evolving it could be that you are somewhere in between being besties & bf/gf and so have not been public about being both because you are not, as yet, really sure. And besides, if the romantic part doesn't work, you probably don't want to lose the friendship.

    Being public BTW doesn't mean being goofy & dramatic, as some annoyingly are. It just means that other people have an idea of who you are to each other. And it is OK to keep things private if that is where you want to be.

    Give yourself some time.

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  • Weezer
    14 years ago

    It's not uncommon to not show affection in public. In fact, certain countries do not allow this.

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