Being in love with a recovering down addict.

4 and a half months ago, I found myself in Edmonton Alberta. And there I found someone who I really cared for. Within three days of meeting him I moved in with him. But at the time it was like it was supposed to happen.

I fell quick for him. In the early stages of our relationship, he told me how he used to be addicted to Herion. I knoe he wasnt lying because I could see the tracks that had scared on his arm. He hadnt used for two years. He was on methodone.

I came home ,I brought him with me. Everything was wonderful. My family loved him , which made me proud because I knew I picked someone my family cared for.

I would cook for him, I would clean for him. I used to do his laundry.

Last night he drank a 26 of Alberta Premium Rye and ended up kicking the sh*t out of me. My jaw is swollen and now leans to the right side. My centre bottom tooth to the right is now pushed out further than the one on the left. The inside of my mouth is cut.

We were no longer together. But because he had no where to go, because he knows no body, I decided to let him sleep over for the night and then leave at 8 in the morning. This way he would have have time to find his way around. The internet is a wonderful thing.

He tells me he isnt leaving when I wake in the morning. So to make a longer story short, Ill just say that a big person I knew had to wrestle him to the ground this morning in order to submit him to leave.

ANYWAYS...

He leaves. And then shows back up 3 hours later. I didnt open the door. He holds up this box, as if to say I have a present for you. I didnt open the door to except it. I told him through the glass door that he had to leave. He told me with biggest of eyes that he was sorry. And he left.

So then Im sitting upstairs and he calls me. He apologizes, and for some reason I think its sincere. Then he proceeds to tell me that the box he held up was perfume (because thats what I collect) and he left it outside the screen door. That right there made me cry while I was on the phone with him.

So I get off the phone with him and I run downstairs. I open the lock so quickly, pop open the screen door and ever so quickly grab this pink and silver box off the ground. I shut the door swiftly, and proceeded to my bathroom.

The perfume is GORGEOUS! And the smell is not cheap, it is a very expensive bottle. Its the most beautiful smell I have.

He never came back or called me again tonight. When he called me previously he said he is on his way to Winnipeg and and is leaving at 83opm. He asked me to meet him at the buss station. I didnt. Is that selfish after the amazing gift I recieved? Even though he kicked the crap out of me? Should I have atleast helped him get home or seen him once he boarded his bus?

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  • You expect me to read all of this shit?

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  • peterrabbyt2

    You sound like you are both a couple off assholes.

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  • You're/were probably a JUNKIE yourself,so dont worry about it,if you need him back that badly,sell the bottle of shit he gave you as a GIFT,and buy SOME MORE DRUGS with the proceeds,find him somehow and tell him you'd like to reciprocate the gift he gave you.ADDICT.

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  • RetroVirusNintari

    Heroin addicts are pretty fucked up. I know you thought that because he was off the stuff for a long time that he was a stable companion. One cannot undo the scars those drugs have caused. As for the perfume, I suggest keeping it as a reminder of the mistake that you will never repeat again.

    Peace,

    Ciro

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  • Smile:)

    With the utmost respect u are childish for moving in with him after 3 days and u should know that presents, no matter how expensive, are a cheap gesture of remorse. Fate will produce plenty more guys who don't get pissed and beat up women. Forget him

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  • misty2

    I think you did the right thing and well the Purfume is just a gift I wouldnt feel bad at all and about tryng to help getting home what the hell would he have done if you were not there... The hell with him he beat the shit out of you and you felt bad.... U shouldnt

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  • MissTrademark2317

    Do not go back to him. Cut off contact with him immediately, and no you are not being selfish. You are being SMART. So many girls fall for men again and again after they abuse them. It does not matter if he was drunk, I really really want you to take this seriously. Please do. If you got back with him, you would be falling right into the cycle of an abuse relationship. They abuse you and when the want to come back or they apologize they really seem to mean it and sometimes they don't let up. If you allow them back into your life, though, it may not happen again. This chance is so very slim, though, that you are risking your life by doing it. You didn't do the right thing by trusting someone so quickly in the first place, but you can do the right thing now and have not one more thing left to do with him.

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  • Inter

    I think it all depends people make mistakes and if he drank that much its safe to say he might have been blacked out and not in control of his actions. I cant tell you what kind of person he really is and whether he was worth forgiveness and a second chance is completely up to what you think about him and your life in general.

    He obviously still has substance abuse problems and even if in his heart he is a good man he is troubled and requires work, since you didnt know him that long he probably wasnt worth the trouble in the end.

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  • No you shouldn't have felt guilty about the perfume. At best, he was trying to be "nice" but only after criminally assaulting you (hello)!!! More likely he was manipulating your feelings - to get more out of you - to use you - like he uses so many things.

    People here have questioned your judgement. I agree - though I don't blame you for the assault 7 abuse.

    Good for you booting him out. Good for you for standing your ground. If he comes back again call the police. Also take pictures of your bruises and injuries. Look at them if you need reminding.

    Finally, you sound a bit rough, maybe get something good going in your life.

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  • XxINCHAINSxX

    I would never make contact with him again. If someone disrespects you so blatantly and has so much anger towards someone who has done nothing wrong, and everything right... You should just ignore him as long as you both live. If he dies, you should go to his funeral and give him his perfume back. But other than that, I would ignore someone so disrespectful. Find a real guy... like me.

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  • redsheepy

    probably shouldn't have let him move in after three days really.

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  • The only help you shold have gave was to your self and kick him to the curb, so well done you are normal!!

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  • babygurl

    edmonton crack heads,
    trust me i lived there i know what its like .
    its ugly , especially the north east end .
    too hood

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  • AnnaAgain

    I can't believe he would hit you - that's just sick! Stay strong, and try to forget him. There's no point to abusive relationships... the girl always feels at one point like she should have done more, but it sounds to me like you were a great girlfriend to him. You deserve better and I guess he figured that out.

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  • artistic

    maybe you should have gotten to know this idiot more b4 moving in wit him. Yikes

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    • zitface

      hmmm... u r normal kicking him out and not seeing him again. but moving him in with u, was so not normal

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  • EccentricWeird

    Except this, bitch:

    *middle finger ASCII drawing here*

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    • they do everything in unicode now EW. ascii is so 1990's

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  • well what finally happened? i bet gizzie got it right and he's probably on your couch right now watching tv.

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  • I moved in with a guy after only going out with him for a week, but we were friends for about 2 months. Moving in with people is stupid, and I will never do it again. You did do the right thing by not going to see him, and if he bothers you again you should call the police, but it's too late now to tell them about the previous beating he gave you. I hope he doesn't hurt you again like that, good luck.

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  • Oh and by the way I hope you used protection when you had sex with this loser, or you will probably be diagnosed with HIV before long.

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  • sounds like the loser committed felony assault. file for a restraining order and have him arrested next time he comes near you. fuck the bottle of perfume.

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  • Doctor_Tongue

    dopers are losers.....very few of them,very very few,ever kick the junk and turn their lives around.......maybe this taught you a valueable lesson about dopers and more importantly about falling in 'love' with some guy instantly.......while he was asleep that night you should have gotten an iron skillet and drushed his skull for him.......dont EVER let some scum abuse you.

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  • You have got to be kidding me? You should have had him arrested and jailed immediately after he got drunk and beat the shit out of you. If I was you, I would have pressed full charges! Then after hes did this to you, you allow him to spend the night in your home? His ass should have been in jail!

    That "perfume" he gave you, I wonder where he stold that? You did the right thing by not going to the bus stop good riddance to that SOB. Ill bet money he never even got on that bus and is probably laying on your couch right now watching Tv.

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  • Well for a start you dont move in with someone 3 days after meeting them. He says he hasnt used for 2 years and is on methadone he should not be having an outburst like that the methadone should calm him down. Its good you gave him a chance but sadly once a junkie always a junkie Im afraid. You have done the right thing you should never see him again a bottle of perfume will not make up for what he did. If you see him again Im sure next time he could kill you

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