Being early 20's and never having settled down for any amount of time?

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There have been a few women that i've liked and i thought like me but they didn't reciprocate.

Because of this i've never been in a 'relationship'. I've slept with women and gone on dates, spoken to them over the phone, text but never dated them lol sounds like dating but it's not.

I'm worried they'll not reciprocate feelings if i ask them out and then we won't hang out anymore or anything like that.

Not only that but I usually will believe I'm falling for a girl but then when it gets heavy and i know she feels the same i'll back off. Then if she isn't interested i'll be interested again and just think of how i fucked up. I don't know why i do that. I want to be in a relationship but i can't get past this.

There's this girl i'm really into right now she seems interested and i'd like to hang out with her but i just can't bring myself to hurt her, because that's ultimately what i think i'll do.

I've missed out with so many GREAT girls because i don't know how to turn the, whatever it is, into a relationship lol. Is this normal? i'm almost positive it's not.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Go out and enjoy yourself!

    You will find someone that you will be so happy with that one day you will look back and realise you've been with them 3 years!
    (Or 6 years in my case - so I married him!)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    If you think of failure then that's what will happen. Try casually inviting your female friends to places and then tell them how you feel. Don't think too negatively or else you'll set yourself up for a break up.

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    I used to not settle down because of the opposite..I was too scared of being the one that gets hurt. I finally found someone to break the cycle though. It's so weird nowadays how you have to be specific that you're dating lol. Here's how it went down with me:
    Me: so are we exclusive now or what?
    Him: i have to make sure you're not crazy
    Me: Well?
    Him: Ok we're dating

    Or something to that affect haha. Maybe you're just not ready to settle down..don't force it. Nothing wrong with having some fun in the meantime.

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    Who wants to be tied down? You don't.
    But one day soon you may, and when that day happens you won't F. up with the girl you truly want to be with.

    By the way, if you constantly think about the end of a relationship you'll never start one.

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