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I just turned 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years i love my boyfriend dearly but for the lsat few months i have felt that i need to have my own life without him just have the freedom to do what eva i want i mean i can do what i want now but still feel i havnt led the life of a 19 year old i love going out etc he wants to sit home (hes only 20)ive tried to comprimise with him but nothing seems to work is this selfish that i fel like this or is it normal? I no ill regret breaking up with him but i think i may regret this period in my life later down the track...im soooo confused does anyone else have this problem or thoughts?

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  • rdtul
    14 years ago

    You've been together 3 years, there should be enough trust to go out separately. Have your fun, respect your relationship, and if you figure out later that you need to part ways, deal with it then. For now, you seem to have a good base to work from.

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    • Lucyg123swag
      11 years ago

      agreeed

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    you are only 19 yet you've been with him for 3 years already. 16 is not a good age to pick a partner. as you can see, you are starting to realize that there's alot out there. i say better to do it now than to wait.

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  • angelkanarias
    14 years ago

    totally normal. you want to have your own life, not totally depend on him. I understand it and encourage you to have your own life.

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  • bazwell
    14 years ago

    You say you'd feel regretful later in life if you break up with him now, so that's an indication that you value what you've found in him.

    I think it might be possible to eat your cake and have it in this situation:

    It sounds like you enjoy having a more social life while he prefers to stay home. If this is truly his preference, then I am guessing that he doesn't expect you to always want to be home with him. A true compromise would be that you have mutually agreed-upon days when you get to spend time out of the house with or without him. Those days that are without him, he aught not get jealous about or complain about being lonely; and you, while out, have to ensure that you stay faithful and trustworthy.
    If this kind of an agreement or some semblance of it still proves unsatisfactory to either of you, then the relationship itself may have more problems than either of you is being honest about.

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