Being a girl and had sex with another girl

There's nothing wrong with what your doing. Years ago a buddy and I we're partying and drinking. I'm not attracted to men at all, but my buddy and I spent 5-6 weeks giving each other oral. I'm not into making out with guys, but I know I really enjoyed giving him oral. I also am a male cross dresser. So I do know what I like and all, just don't be embarrassed, we are humans and we are curious by nature.

What you are feeling is perfectly normal. We often just don't know what we want until later on in life. My guess is that you are actually bisexual. You want a romantic relationship with a guy, but a purely sexual relationship with a woman. This is normal. The sooner you come to accept this, it will be easier for you to decide what you want. But I also think that you need to be honest with the girl you are having sex with. If she doesn't feel the same way, you don't want to lead her on and it's not fair to her. And finally, any guy who doesn't take the time to put her pleasure before his, is a total ass bag.

Regarding your relationship with the other woman, I'd suggest you just be honest with her about your intentions and needs.

What interests me more are your comments about how you, who identify as straight, find sex with men very unsatisfying.

Frankly, it sounds like the guys you've been with haven't been very skilled or experienced sexually. Or possibly you've just been with insensitive, selfish dickheads.

You say you "can barely feel anything" even if you're turned on. I assume this means you don't get much enjoyment from penetrative sex. If so, then you're normal, since the majority of women are unable to reach orgasm by penetrative sex alone. The geometry of their vulvas is such that the clitoris receives very little stimulation during penile thrusting.

Some women can reach orgasm this way, because it just happens that their clitoris is located such that it is stimulated by a penis moving in and out of the vagina.

From what you say, it sounds like the guys you've been with (and you, for that matter) believe that sex between a man and a woman is only about getting a penis in a vagina and thrusting away. That's certainly a good way for a man to reach orgasm, but if it does nothing for you, then it's not surprising you feel that sex is only about the guy getting pleasure.

Really, I find this pretty sad, since it sounds like you've been the passive recipient of sex, not an active participant. During sex, both parties bear some responsibility for their own pleasure. Maybe you've only been with ignorant, self-centered assholes who just don't care about what you're experiencing. Or maybe at least some of the guys just didn't know what you needed, but would have been happy to help out if you'd asked them to do specific things. Any guy with any sense should understand that the woman they're with knows a lot more about her own body than they do. If a guy isn't just using you, he will listen to your requests and suggestions, and do what he can to give you pleasure.

Have you always had sex in the classic missionary position? Some women enjoy that, but many find it feels pretty meh. Since you aren't feeling anything much, maybe you should try different positions? How about you on top in the cowgirl position, with you (or the guy) stimulating your clitoris? Or doggy position, while you do the same?

Some guys are total asshats who believe they're God's gift to women and their cock is a wonder of the natural world. However, if you're with a half-decent guy, you'll probably find that he'd very much enjoy watching your rub your own pussy and take yourself to orgasm while you're straddling him and he's in you. I've certainly always found that beautiful to watch.

And, of course, any decent guy knows that the woman should always come first. If that's not been your experience, then I think you need to reconsider the sort of guys you have sex with.