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Our relationship is pretty great aside from this. I do my best to go out of my way for her and always have. I completely understand that sex is her prerogative and I don't expect sex or see it as her obligation. I just thought people naturally would...
Maybe she's asexual. If you're unhappy, why are you with her? Let her be with someone who is the same as her.
This does not seem normal at all in an adult relationship. You guys don't do anything sexual at all? That seems kind of fishy and suspicious if you ask me. Relationships are not all about sex but...being a couple for 6 years and never doing it isn't really normal. You don't even receive turbo hand jobs or anything like that?
No. No sexual activity. She says she thinks its animalistic and beneath us. She tells me I'm failing in wanting anything like that. In everything else she's a fantastic person, and I feel awful that she thinks so badly of this part of me. :(
That is just weird. Sounds like she was traumatized sexually in some way in her past and now she shuns any form of sexual activity. I think she is hiding something.
And don't feel awful that she doesn't like that part of you dude, there are plenty of parts that I don't like about a person and that they don't like about me, but those people are still my friends (and some, love interests)
As a person who has never been in a realtionship to date, I can't give the best advice, but I can say that you should tell her that the human race would have died out long ago if they didn't have sex.
Thats not normal at all. Sex isnt everything, but it is part or all normal and healthy long term relationships. If I were you Id leave her and find someone else.
This is going to make me a hypocrite since I am basically a sex addict buttt I think sex doesn't always mean healthy. I think it all comes down to likemindedness. If two people are both asexual, their relationship is fine but he's the opposite of his GF and opposites in sex is a big deal.
You're clearly unhappy with this. She needs to realize that sex isn't anymore animalistic than eating food or pooping. If she is uninterested in sex, that's fine. She still can't go criticizing you for the fact that you have an itch that needs scratched. She can't tell you you're wrong for wanting sex. Not even God says you should never have sex. And that guy can be pretty damn harsh, according to many books. So she needs to seriously get off your back about it.
As for you two staying together and not having sex, well I can't say she isn't within her rights to not want sex. You have to decide how important this is to you. Honestly, I imagine quite important. Important enough to tell her she needs to have an uncomfortable conversation with you if she cares about your feelings.
You are not being treated fairly at all by your gf. After 6 years (actually, long ago) you should have begun your sexual relationship. I believe there is something very wrong with this girl and you two need to get to a couples counselor, unless you are perfectly happy with things the way they are.
I understand completely going slow...but 6 years is weird...she weird for never wanting sex..and youre weird for tolerating it...sounds like one of those marriages of convience when people who were attracted to the same sex married to look normal
My wife and I fucked before marriage and for ten years after. We have not had any sexual contact for the lat twenty five years and sleep in different rooms. I think it is time you moved on and found someone who is prepared to have a sexual relationship with you.
If you're not happy with this arrangement break up with her. Seems like you're wasting your time.
I think that somebody else is fucking your girlfriend! wake up and smell the roses...
Can't imagine that your togetherness is a lasting one. There are some basic things in life and sex is one of them. After six years and not having any or even playing around you both may be "asexual". (Not that this will end your relationship but what the hell fun is it?)
Wow. How could u control ur urges that long?? I know sex isn't everything. My ex also wanted to do it after marriage n we were together for 4 years but we did do other things which were non-penetrative if ya know what I mean. Still after y
4 years we separated for other reasons. I'd say you try n satisfy ur urges by masturbating n talk to her if she's willing to lend a hand (pun intended :p)