Becoming sad over the daydream of fictional crush rejecting me

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As the title says, I have a crush on a fictional character, however, as of recent something strange has happened, I've been imagining my fictional crush rejecting me which causes me a small amount of real life depression. Now I know this sounds demented to a lot of people, as I'm sure this isn't normal, and I'm quite sure all of these manifestations are the result of my unfortunate childhood. Anyway, I wanted to know if other people experience this as well? Perhaps I'm a masochist of the soul and of the heart, a pain inflicted by me onto myself..

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  • sourgrapes
    7 years ago

    No its not bloody well normal!

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    This is completely normal. Brains are irrational, there is no sense in worrying about them being a certain way. Love yourself do what makes sense to you.

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  • jsnpq
    7 years ago

    It sounds like you are feeling sorry for yourself. You may be a masochist and tormenting yourself for some kind of satisfaction. It sounds like you are a very creative and sensitive person. You need to be carefull with fantasy and not lose yourself in it. I highly recommend you get a boyfriend or girlfriend, someone you can explore fantasies with and also to help you stay grounded in the real world, connected to a real person. You may be deeply insecure and/or have a seriously shitty self image, in which case I suggest getting a therapist, maybe talk to a doctor about meds, find a support group for depressed people with low self esteem. Again, most importantly, cultivate relationships with real people, just friends or a bf/gf.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      This was a well thought out and kind answer, thank you for taking the time to write to me, I appreciate your input.

      I thought I would refrain from telling you this but figured I should share anyway. I've been married for six years and get along well with my husband, however I find more pleasure in fantasy, well, until something like this happened. This is the first time something like this has ever happened since fantasizing has always been a way to escape the pain of the real world, as well as experiencing something more that would otherwise be impossible otherwise. I feel like my mind is making up for the lack of real life cruelty seeing as how things have become more stable since being married.

      I know I need therapy considering my age (letting things like this go on for so long), unfortunately I live in a country where seeing a therapist is looked down on, thus there's a lack of such profession here, plus the added fact that I might have a difficult time finding one that speaks English well enough. :(

      Again, thank you for your reply. I really do appreciate it.

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      • jsnpq
        7 years ago

        You are most welcome, it was my pleasure to reach out and be heard.

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      • RoyRogers
        7 years ago

        How pathetic is your self esteem if your getting dumped by your own fantasy.

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  • CreamPuffs
    7 years ago

    It's your imagination. Just imagine that she doesn't reject you instead.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Seek professional help.

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