Bad feelings after orgasming

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Well, I am fairly comfortable with my sexuality (lesbian) and I've been single for some time. Usually when I masturbate, whether I'm turned on by some erotic literature, videos or just imagining sexual scenarios, I have no problem reaching orgasm and it is always very enjoyable. I get quite high. I can come sucessive times when I'm relaxed...
However, sometimes I have bad feelings afterwards. I feel a bit guilty and depressed after I come down from the excitement. And I feel bad for not having someone to share the pleasure with.
Has it happened with you people? I am ashamed to discuss it with my shrink.

Thanks for reading.

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    I hadn't ever known this was a thing until earlier this year. My paramour and myself added a semi-permanent third to our relationship/play. My paramour is quite comfortable with her body and everything to do with sex. She's not one of those bi-friendly women, she enjoys all aspects of sexual play with women. Anyway, the third we added was fairly young (21) and relatively inexperienced. She had this same problem you describe about feeling bad afterward. I had never known this sort of thing happened, but we (my paramour and myself) would sit and hold her and this seemed to help. I think she partly felt like an outsider in the relationship, but this really wasn't true, just her perception.

    While a lot of talking (communication is really key in any relationship, but even more so in poly situations) and holding, cuddling helped she's never completely got past whatever issue she's dealing with or reacting to.

    This probably doesn't help much, except to let you know you aren't alone. Do you have any sort of trauma that might be manifesting as this post-orgasm feeling? Perhaps exploring that, if it exists, could help you.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    8 years ago

    OP here. Thanks for the reply. Not any traumas I can think of. Maybe guilt. I feel bad having to seek release by myself, without a partner or love. I dunno really.

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