Bad family
I didn't know what category to put this under because it's so messed up in my opinion. When I was younger I was molested by my grandpa, when my parents found out they didn't do anything about it. My older sister even came out and told us he did it to her too and still... Nothing. They kept allowing us to be around him like nothing was wrong. Even forcing me to tell him hi and hug him every time we saw him at family get togethers. As I got older, I stopped hugging him, then stopped telling him hi, and now at any family get togethers I ignore him completely. He doesn't exist to me. That's the background story.
Now I have two children. My oldest is a social butterfly and she's 6 years old. I obviously do not want her around him at all. I get very paranoid and upset with just the thought. The other day I had a practice to go to so as usual I drop my kids off with my mother. When I get out an hour and a half later, my kids are not at her house. After desperately calling her and trying to find her, one of my sisters tells me she's at my grandparents house. In a panic, I rush over there and pick them up. When I talk to her later, I told her I don't want them over there near him. She got angry with me. She yelled at me and said she was with them nothing would happen. She made me feel like a child again, like it was my fault but I stuck to what I felt and told her no. Is it normal for me to still feel this way and is it normal for her to be acting so nonchalant about all this? It just feels wrong to me...