Back-stabbing or in the way?

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To set the stage, I am male, my best friend, lets call him Jack, is also male. Lets call my girlfriend at the time Victoria. My feelings toward Victoria were better described as friends. Though we enjoyed each other’s company, we lacked that romantic connection. Victoria and Jack became friends through me, and things soon became convoluted. I could see that Jack was falling for Victoria, and likewise Victoria for Jack, in a much deeper fashion than me for Victoria, and Victoria for I. Naturally I fought this as she was mine. But as you can imagine, one day she was no longer mine and the next she was his, literally less than twenty four hours. Did he stab me in the back or was I just in the way?
Is it normal to feel betrayed in this situation?

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Based on 56 votes (46 yes)
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  • NiggerKnocker
    14 years ago

    Smoke his bitch ass

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  • kelsey
    14 years ago

    Normal. But if you never loved her, don't pretend like you do and fight for her.

    Since you don't want her back. Find somebody else worth a fight, keep your head and your heart aligned together in a decision.

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  • anabolic19
    14 years ago

    look you dont need her or him
    if i was you go get a bat and kick the f*ck out of him to teach him a lesson then go to the pub with your other mates get pissed and find a slag to sleep with sorts out all your problems trust me you will feel better

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  • itiswhatitis
    14 years ago

    My understanding is that she was not just a friend, she was a girlfriend, it's just that you two were not actually in love with each other. It is definitely normal to feel as though they both betrayed you, because technically they did. BUT, you said yourself that their feelings for each other are or were much stronger than the feelings between you and Victoria, and that being said, you should step back and take it in stride. If you didn't really love her it won't take very long to move forward from. Don't hold a grudge because they can't help the way they feel.

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  • chucktownbluv
    15 years ago

    You snooze, you lose. Man up and get over it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    No its not normal and there was no betrayal. You just convinced yourself that "...she was mine" ... when she was only a friend.

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  • Hollie
    15 years ago

    I think, in a sense he did backstab and technically she has too, but if you and this 'Victoria' were mostly friends and you could predict the occurance of your two friends joining, you should have broken up with this girl; because you should not be with someone that you don't feel that connection with firstly and secondly I'm sure your mate feels terrible too.

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  • biblebashingtreehugger
    15 years ago

    if he knew the way you fealt about her then he should not have done it because of your friendship, if he didnt know you liked her hen you shoudnt feel negatively towards him

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  • x.princess.x
    15 years ago

    you have a right to be hurt but they have a right to be happy

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  • AverageTMcFlannigan
    15 years ago

    You two were just friends, right? Not really. You say that here, but you obviously have deeper feelings for her. Don't blame him when the only person you have to blame is yourself for not voicing your true feelings. The only reason this happened is because you didn't indicate how you felt. It's too late now though--this happened legitimately.

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  • Rumpranger39
    15 years ago

    You have every right to feel hurt, but you can't say that you didn't see it coming.

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