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It's only one factor of many so it doesn't go for everybody with a problem, but I seem to be attracted to a guy when I can 'help' or support him in some way. IIN?
I feel it's naive...
You and countless other women everywhere. Its probably just maternal instincts.
I only date guys who can maintain the illusion of being nearly perfect... If they are fucked up at the beginning... It's only going to get a hundred times worse!
If I want to mother something, I adopt a pet or volunteer with kids, don't need a grown- ass man- baby.
This is one of the stupidest fucking things women do.
People only change themselves. You cannot do that for them.
I will give some insight into how this always turns out badly.
When somebody is willing to put up with somebodies bullshit, they become viewed as a victim. The person who they are trying to change may even pretend that they want help because they see an opportunity to obtain a willing victim who they can use to get what they want.
Sometimes these unhealthy relationships go on forever because they victim is too weak to end the situation. The victim is never respected because in the mind of others they do not deserve respect.
It might sound harsh but that's how it is. Find somebody you like for who they are.
Another thing is when you accept someone's behavior, you encourage it. Most people will get worse if allowed to. Obviously if somebody wanted to be around them while acting like a douchebag, that only gives them permission to become more of a douchebag because it is apparent that others will tolerate that behavior. They definitely wont change if they think they can get away with those things. This is how abusive relationships usually happen.
It depends on what sort of problems they have ... You can't, as an example, start to date a really depressed guy who cuts himself and expect your love to be something that saves him.
This said, I'm like you but as an example the guy im currently dating has been with a lot of jerks so he's got a hard time trusting and relaxing to a 100% with a woman, I see this as an interesting challenge since I know I'm not one of those sluts, now he only need to see that too.
Well isn't that convenient, it's easy to like a guy when you can get your needs met, and form into your dream guy. It's when you love someone for who they are that makes a world of a difference.
Oh, nice. Cool. So when you "fix" him and he has nothing more to "fix" you move on to the next guy that needs "fixed"? Clearly that would be the case if the primary thing you are attracted to a guy for no longer exists.
...People seem to see this as a good thing...It's actually one of the worst traits a woman can have when it comes to guys in a relationship with such a person.
So ever heard of some loser asshole guy changing his ways when he meets the right girl? Its not that women forcefully change men, its that sometimes the men are just that happy that they make the change all by themselves, because of the woman. I know I changed for the better when I met my boyfriend. I'm more outspoken, outgoing, relaxed and in general just happy. Changing when in a relationship is sometimes a good thing.
it's selfish, you're only doing something to get a reward out of it. if you really want to help people, look into career options toward that end and keep your love life out of it
Don't go for a guy unless you like him the way he is. Some guys are willing to change for the better, but some are selfish
I sometimes experience erectile dysfunction when im nervous. I need a lady to do some fixin for that please. My name is hungdaddy69 on kik......lol