At what stage would you have sex?

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Okay. So I’m 24 and I’m a virgin, female. And it bothers me a lot. Specially when you speak to a guy and he starts asking how many you’ve been with. The longest I’ve dated for is 2 months... and nothing happened and someone told me that’s too long... but it just didn’t happen. Not sex anyway.

And it bothers me and makes me feel down. I feel no guy will want me or wait until I’m ready and time is ticking...
Obviously I don’t thunk I’d wait months I just thought I’d know when the time is right?

So when would, did you have sex with your date? Would you wait for a girl?

3 months 3
4 months 0
Third date 2
5months 2
Second date 2
First date 8
1month 0
2months 0
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  • CozmoWank
    5 years ago

    The time is right when YOU feel the time is right. Never let anyone else tell you that you are abnormal for having feelings you are entitled to. Virgin or no virgin, never feel pressured into having sex. If you don't feel relaxed with the person you will not enjoy the sex.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Guys don’t seem to hang around though. A lot ask before they even meet you... and I feel embarrassed saying.

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      • CozmoWank
        5 years ago

        You just haven't met the right guy yet.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          But do they take you out to get in your pants??

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          • curious-bunny
            5 years ago

            Some yes, others actually card about you, for my bf its a bit of both, he wants I'm my pants but he wants me to be happy with him and wants me to want to be in his pants, I guess with him it's about 40% physical 60% mental.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              I know sex is part of a relationship. But I mean in the early stages of dating... I thought if some men cared they would wait a little longer than 3 dates.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    If I’m not getting fucked on the first date, there ain’t gonna be a second date!

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  • bfus
    5 years ago

    For me, sex is part of dating. Sex should happen whenever it feels right. I want my partner to feel the same way.

    I don't want to date women who think in terms of virginity preservation and "waiting". Not that there's necessarily anything wrong with that - it's just not what I'm looking for.

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  • Thedarknesssoonshallpass
    5 years ago

    Even with my sex drive I will wait as long as the girl I'm with needs, hence why I voted 5 months, and I have before.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Really?

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      • Thedarknesssoonshallpass
        5 years ago

        Yup, why rush it? it's right, when it's right.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Boys leave if you don’t show affection

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  • curious-bunny
    5 years ago

    For me it is guy dependent

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    Guys are not going to waste a lot of time nor money on a woman who doesn't seem to want to have sex.

    I voted "third date". That seems reasonable.

    When you say guys ask before even meeting, do you mean they are bringing up sex when things are still merely online? I assume that is how most millenials start their relationships nowadays?

    There is one other problem too - Sometimes guys will take women out on dates, go through the motions, spend time and money, and she keeps telling him the time isn't right. Like she is a good girl. Yet she meets the next guy and is in the sack the VERY day they meet. So then the previous guy who spent time and money trying to get into her pants feels like a super loser, a cuck, sucker, etc. No man wants to be the "nice guy". He is trying to earn a piece of ass and some bad boy just comes in and snatches it up from under his nose.

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