At bars i automatically assume guys just want sex

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I've only been to bars a few times (and I've hated my experience every time I went), but I always have this wall up whenever a guy tries to talk to me, because I always assume he just wants to fuck me. It doesn't matter how old they are or how they dress, I always assumed a guy who tried to talk to me (like ask me my name, where I lived, etc) was just looking for a one-night stand, and I don't have any patience for it - I can visibly be grossed out and unsociable whenever a guy tried to talk to me.

I mostly assume this because... well, why else would someone be talking to someone of the opposite sex at a bar? They certainly aren't looking for a date or a relationship or anything, because you know, it's a fucking bar.

But as I look back on it, I wonder if I was just being way too harsh, or if I'm correct in judging guys the way I do at bars.

IIN?

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago | pl

    This one time I was at a bar and a girl came walking out of the toilet and I tapped her on the shoulder. Just as I was about to open my mouth, she told me she's not interested and I should save it =/

    So I decided to not tell her about the nearly 2 meter long piece of toilet paper hanging out her skirt.

    Bitch.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago | pl

    My brother talks to girls at bars and he is not looking for sex. However, I think it is safe to assume that 90% of them (that are approaching women at bars) are looking for just sex. Bars aren't the greatest places to look for commitment.

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  • iEatZombies_
    8 years ago

    I've been in a relationship for seven years now with a guy I met at a bar- who I didn't have sex with at the time. Thought I should throw that in there.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    8 years ago

    Generalizing way too much, I'm not saying there are no guys like that but I find the idea that every guy at a bar is a little insulting

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    • kingofcarrotflowers
      8 years ago

      Also I have a problem with the why else would you be talking to a member of the opposite sex at a bar bit.

      Yeah a lot of people go to bars to pick up but most go for a good time, men and women can do more than just fuck, some of my best friends have been women, one of which I met in a nightclub when I met a group of people

      My point is, depending on the bars and clubs iit's a social thing, it's fun to meet New people, New friends, and the fact that you assume the only reason a guy is speaking to you is to bone you is just overly cynical, I'm not saying get rid of your guard because some guys will be after that but in no way every guy

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I would totally walk into a bar and just hang out, maybe grab a girls number.

    Sex is a possibility not a standard. Relax.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I've met some very wonderful ladies in bars. Some became friends and some even became lovers.
    What's astounding about your post is that you act like if you have a fun evening with a guy at a bar, he won't want to see you again. What in the world is there about you that is so bad that it would turn a guy off after just a few hours together?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      When did I say that in my post? Are you referring to my statement about one night stands?

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  • Motorhippy
    8 years ago

    There's nothing wrong with someone being attracted to you, especially at a bar, and you're not obligated to fuck anybody so maybe you could lighten up and not be a jerk to every guy that talks to you, or try a les bar if men make you so visibly disgusted

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    8 years ago

    at bars i always assumes that womens is just out to git free drinks and complements from strangers

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  • Lonely2
    8 years ago

    This is why i fucking hate you cunts

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  • mr.artiste
    8 years ago

    I think its ok.. Coz people are high .. and high means fuck. Not always but yes, most of the time.

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  • notaterrorist
    8 years ago

    sounds like every woman in every bar everywhere

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  • NarutoUzumaki
    8 years ago

    Normal, but harsh.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    I can understand the wall if someone's giving off a creepy vibe or there's some awkward attempts at flirting going down. And player types are pretty easy to spot; if it's obvious he just wants a one night stand, then I can understand you shutting him down.

    But it's rude, sexist and presumptuous to shut down any guy who tries to start a conversation with you.
    Guys go to bars to drink, have fun and maybe meet some new people; not to seek you out and convince you to have sex with them!
    Too harsh.

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  • eastbeast
    8 years ago

    Try going to ordinary bars, keep the visits to fucking bars for when you feel randy?

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