As a man, is it normal to have trouble reaching orgasm during sex?

I would say you need to fix one problem at a time. The fact that neither of you can reach orgasm during sex suggests 2 problems. Now I’m not just saying this because I am a woman, but actually both problems are yours to fix.

The male and female orgasms are very different. The female orgasm is very much more about how we are feeling, for most of us we need to be in the right head space, feeling relaxed and switched off from the rest of the world. I need to totally immerse myself in the moment before I can get close to an orgasm. I am very lucky that I find it easy to switch off and distance my brain from everything else when I have sex. Therefore I have no problem having lots of orgasms. For other women it can be different, some apparently find it really hard to wind down enough to actually get their head in the right place to allow their body to reach orgasm.

However, often that is about how their male partner makes them feel. A lot of men have little interest in whether or not their female partner reaches orgasm. They may start off thinking they want their partner to cum but once they get warmed up, which for most men doesn’t seem to take very long, their primal instinct takes over and all they are interested in is their own orgasm. Once that has happened they are done.

So my advice to you is this. As difficult as this may sound you need to completely forget about your own orgasm. Set the scene, a warm room with soft music, scented candles or whatever and just spend time worshiping your lady’s body. Use some nice oil to massage her all over. Kiss every inch of her body start with her laying on her front kissing the back of her neck. Work your way down her back kissing and massaging her, continue down her buttocks and the back of her legs to her feet, then flip her over, continue to caress her feet, suck her toes, massage her legs, take your time work your way slowly back up her body, but don’t spend too long on her fanny or her nipples just enough to tease her a bit. When you get back to her neck move up a little and kiss her passionately on the lips, take your time then start to work your way back down only this time spend time kissing and sucking on her nipples. While you work on one with your mouth use your fingers on the other one, then switch. As you do this start to finger her down below, let her guide your hand. As she gets nice and wet go down on her with your tongue. Alternate between licking and fingering her until you bring her to orgasm. Afterwards she may want to stop or she may want you to carry on and give her another orgasm. Do whatever she wants. Do not ask to make love to her this is about her not you. If she suggests it that is different but it MUST be her idea. When she has had enough just lay with her until you are both ready to get up or sleep or whatever. You need to repeat this process every time she wants sex for at least a month or two. If she never asks you to fuck her or mentions you having an orgasm then you should not mention it either, just keep reassuring her that your primary concern is her orgasms. If after 2 or 3 months she has not suggested doing anything more (she probably will by then) only then should you mention taking care of your needs. You still need to start the same only now you should hold off letting her cum and then enter her and let your dick do the work. You will likely find you cum with no problem.

if your discovery of sexuality started with porn and in addition by masturbating on porn, that's normal.
you had a bad initiation.
we have to manage to erase that, but I don't know how.
antidepressants are also a problem in sexual relations> read the leaflet in the "side effects" chapter

You're watching too much porn.

Another thing that can hurt is if you're doing pain pills.

For one thing stop watching porn man. Let your girl be your porn. Itll help your side. Otherwise listen mini. Sjes absolutely right about that

If you're not married to this chick you should be using condoms. The last thing you need is get this girl pregnant! If I were a man I wouldn't trust anyone who didn't want me to use condoms, because I certainly wouldn't want to be entrapped by a crisis pregnancy.

Yeah, porn induced ED is a thing. The anti depressants are likely working against you in that area too, but since you can still get aroused, it’s probably the porn & excessive fapping.

All the god damn time. Doesnt really slow things down. In fact it just increases the time during the act. Climax is the goal but the journey to that is a fun one.

I do want to also add that antidepressants can also cause anorgasmia (inability to have an orgasm despite proper stimulation). The first comment does explain things extremely well, kudos. Seems you may be watching too much porn and as a result, have unrealistic goals for sex. Possibly you may also be experiencing some performance anxiety as well. You want to please her so badly and you fear you can’t which actually stresses you out and basically kills the mood. Hope this additional information helps beings the first answer did a fairly good job!

You should watch porn with her so she can see what gets you off. Try a vibrating butt plug up your ass while you fuck, that will put you over the edge