As a guy, is it normal to compare yourself to bro in law?

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Been married for a year, and recently my wife's sisters husbands job took him from the high end of upper middle class to the status of ultra wealthy. They aren't braggers, but are beginning to live the very high end lifestyle and will reference at times a high end luxury we should try out (joining a country club, etc). As an average Joe, upper middle class, at best, I learned a long time ago to limit my interactions with this type of class. Otherwise, I would become envious and want to try to "keep up with the Joneses". In addition, as a guy with a competative nature, I start to feel inadequate or jealous that I'm not able to put my family in the same position. My wife doesn't understand why I have these feelings, and thinks I'm bizarre. She says she's perfectly happy with our lifestyle, but as time goes on, will she continue to feel that way, or the more time she spends with her sister, will she be envious as well. I'm afraid of some down the road resentment or regret towards me. Anyone been in this situation where your brother and sister in laws lifestyle is very different from your own?

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  • baronroderick
    10 years ago

    I think you need therapy. Seriously, you're way too insecure, that's not good, man.

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  • LostSoul22
    10 years ago

    I can't say Iv been in the exact same situation, but I know the feeling. I live in a very 'wealthy' town in simplest terms and pretty much 90% of the people who live here get what they want, or have it handed to them. It's very irritating as part of that 10% that has it harder. But a good companion, friends an people who you surround your self with most of the time make's it a easy to ignore the rest when need be.

    I'm not saying to ignore them since they are family, but don't get to focused on what they have. If they say they got something new be like, Oh wonderful! and happy for them an such, but just keep in mind how happy you are with your wife and life with her.

    Sorry I like to ramble a bit heh, hope you found something helpful :P

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    Be happy for him and if he invites you accept. No need to show jealousy. You're wife can deal with him if he starts laying it on too thick.

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