Are these reasons valid for questioning our relationship?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We are both 30. We have amazing sexual chemistry and get along really well. We have similar beliefs and morals. When we are alone, everything is perfect. However:
I dislike his friends. They all have better jobs than my boyfriend and are doing financially a lot better. They also don't have a lot respect for him, which bugs me greatly, but he doesn't seem to mind.
We are both the same height, and he has expressed that he dislikes when girls are taller than their male partner. Which for me, means that heels are out of question. Now, while I rarely wear heels, I do like to dress up in an odd occasion for weddings and big events like that. I like to wear a dress, with high heels, because it makes me feel feminine and attractive. While we haven't been to any weddings together, I am dreading if we were to ever attend such an event together.

Are these two reasons significant enough for me to question our relationship or are they something I could potentially get over in the not so distant future?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

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Based on 19 votes (7 yes)
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  • freakdom
    8 years ago

    don`t care about the rest of the world. If everything is fine when you are alone with him, it should be when other people are around aswell. It`s just a matter of how much you care about what other people thinks. Which you absolutely should not. If they don`t have respect for him because they are "doing better financially", they are idiots. Big time!

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    Saboteur!!

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    Why should you care too much what his friends earn and what they think of him?

    What's important is what YOU think of him.

    As for the height thing, he better get over that real quick - that's HIS problem and he needs to grow up real quick on that issue. He can just shift his perspective, embrace the tallness (literally) so that it actually makes him feel and look good instead of feeling inadequate and cockshrunk (personally I love it when a woman towers over me with heels, I think it's sexy and makes me feel great).

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    • RoyRogers
      8 years ago

      This comment.

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  • Redcoats
    8 years ago

    Sounds like he could do better.

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    • shuggy-chan
      8 years ago

      As in he needs to improve or better the the OP lol

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      • Redcoats
        8 years ago

        He deserves someone better than the OP (:

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  • WardsBack
    8 years ago

    Your looking for a way out and that's normal, romance and connecting with someone are very strong things in a relationship but that alone can't hold up a relationship forvever ,especially hold you up forever, you seem to be making small things bigger therefore giving you an excuse to doubt your relationship , I don't know everything about you guys enough to say you're better off without him or he's better off without you ,NO THESE ARE NOT VALID REASONS,

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    As reasons for questioning a relationship, these aren't a couple of biggies, IMO. However, the fact that you are using them to question your relationship is very telling. I wouldn't be making long term plans with you if I was your boy friend, as I don't see you hanging around much longer.

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  • Forestheart
    8 years ago

    Are you sure you're not imagining it? Cause friends are often sarcastically rude to each other. Your issue here might be psychological, the one people refer to as jealousy. Perhaps you think that his rich friends are being rude to him based on the fact that he's not as rich, while the reality might be different as your boyfriend doesn't particularly mind. And as for the heels business, it shouldn't cause harm to your relationship as I believe you two will get over it over time.

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