Are these mixed signals?

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I feel like guys pursue when they want a girl, I don not feel pursued by this guy.

He recently confided in me about some deep family issues, like his mum's suicide and how he almost committed suicide shortly after. We tried to have sex but he could not get it up. He is really nice, he takes me out, gets me gifts but the thing is that, he sends me mixed signals, maybe he is taking things slow? Sometimes he goes MIA for hours, he works different shifts on some days works night so I understand his schedule does not always allow him to immediately reply texts. Sometimes he won't read my messages for like 15 hours. He did not ask to see me this weekend but yesterday he told he was going to work but he went on some fishing trip and I do not know with whom, I get that guys want some time alone but I fee like he no longer wants to talk to me so I have stopped responding his texts.
Is it even normal for a guy to confide in you about really deep stuff but still sends you mixed signals.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    If I like someone I ignore them. For a while I didn't know why but I think it's cause I'm scared they won't feel the same, could be the same this he's doin

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  • ysgadksjab
    6 years ago

    it doesn't sound like he's interested. But even if he was, people act differently when grieving.

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  • McBean
    6 years ago

    He is grieving. It's not easy. At this point, you are his sister, and sort of helping to heal his soul. He probably went fishing by himself. You could go "fishing" as well at the local pub for a disposable jerk that's very attractive. Take him home, dump him the next morning.

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  • Whatintarnation
    6 years ago

    Sounds like he's pretty screwed up at the moment. Might try just being friends. If something developed when he has got himself together then great. Just leave yourself open to new possibilities

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  • strangethingshappen
    6 years ago

    Yeah but why bother with guys when he'd end up cheating on you in the end anyway.

    Why waste time on a man ?

    You may want to think about that

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