Are people still afraid to come out

I was talking to my friend the other day who's bi sexual and apparently we have a crush on the same girl.

Was weird to hear that but anyway I told this girl my feelings and she said she can't be with me.

My bi sexual friend said she probably is afraid as most people are afraid of others reactions so probably wouldn't admit if she actually had feelings for me.

I want to know how common is it for LGBT people to still have a lot of fear of coming out?

It's so much more accepted in my country but I don't know if people are still as afraid as before or what ?

I am a girl and I was so scared 3
I'm a guy and nah 4
I'm a guy and yes 17
Other 3
I am a girl and I am 9
Nah I didn't care 2
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  • I am bisexual and proud of it!

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    • Biman458

      I am glad for you. I am also bisexual, but being a bi male is still frowned upon at least from where I am from. I am openly bi but I don't broadcast it, I don't deny it either if asked. I did come out to my daughter. She said it doesn't change a thing I am still dad.

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      • I think it’s more difficult for a male to be openly bisexual! I admire your courage!

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        • Biman458

          Like I said I don't brodcast it but if asked I won't deny it. A woman can carry a sign she us bisexual everyone is cool with it. A guy does it, he is labeled as a fag or gay.

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          • Just be who you are. No shame, no regrets!

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            • Biman458

              Thank you for being understanding. Most of my friends that know are women, women seem to be more understanding then men are on this

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    • No you're just sexually warped

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      • Why did you ask the question if you didn't want to hear an honest answer?

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  • Acton98

    Considering all the hate.
    I'd say yes.

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  • RoseIsabella

    It depends on the individual, and their own personal life circumstances.

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  • curious-bunny

    Back when I came out I was "still a guy" I say that very loosely as I've never really been a guy anyeays I've known without a doubt I was meant to be a girl since I was 12 and when I look back it was all there since I was 5 I just didn't have to knowledge on it or any of that to even remotely understand that. But I came out fully when I was 16 and I was frightened. I first cane out to my best friend and she was really cool about it and heck it wasn't even that hard coming out to her. I wish I knew why she abandoned me though, anyways back to this story and she convinced me and urged me on and gave me the confidence to come out to my mom and so I did frightened as hell and she said I shit you not why was 4th at so hard for you to tell me? And she gave me this look of complete and utter ignorance. I went from frightened to angry immediately. I'm slow to anger or to get insulted but that was so insulting. She then later on asked a bunch of questions wich I awnsered and even fooled me into thinki ithinking she was gonna help me transition. But nope she was just playing those strings to get me to meet her own desires to try and open up on things. Wich well I hate her now days. I'm 20 and have been on hormones for a year now but it took alot m9re effort than if she helped but whatever. I guess moral of the story is yes it is scary it is so so very scary to come out and maybe your loved one will reject you maybe they will embrace you maybe they will play you sling like a total bitch but in the end it's worth it cause you are so so much closer to being yourself. So if you are gay or trans or whatever come out it's so worth It! You'll be so much closer to being happy that it will blow your mind

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  • I think that coming out can be pretty scary, especially if you live in a very conservative area. I had a friend who, when their friend found out she was a lesbian, slapped her across the face. There was also a teacher who would regularly harass her.

    As for me, well... I actually never wanted to be out, but I ended up being outed to family via the school counselors in some complicated past events during highschool. It wasn't pretty. My parents took it very poorly and they did a lot of abusive and controlling stuff until I lied and said that I was just a "feminine male" (which isn't true, and wasn't much better than being gay, but at the very least, it got them off my backs).

    Counselors said a lot of pretty awful stuff to me in the past as well.

    I know that it was pretty hard to accept myself, and in the past I felt a lot of guilt over my feelings. Dunno what helped me move from that, but I'm better off these days.

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  • Biman458

    I am a bi man who kept it hidden for years. I first had to admit it to myself. Even though I was giving blow jobs and being topped I still convinced be myself in I was straight. I dont broad cast I am bi but would not deny it if asked. I did openly admit to some friends. I also admitted be it to my daughter. She said she still loves me and glad I could tell her.

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  • Brownbear

    If you are straight, bi, who fucking cares. Some women don't like it and some women do. My women loved it because there was at time 2 to 4 bi men naked in are bed at once so my wife loved having all that dick and she just shared with me.

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    • yuck what a freak

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  • McBean

    I am a closet heterosexual. I wish I could be accepted by women for projecting healthy sexuality.

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  • Dustyair

    Whats there to be proud of? The fact you're just another faggot that nobody wants to hear about?

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    • I reported you

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      • So thanks again for showing your true colors :)

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    • I'm proud of the fact that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality nor embarrassed by it! I'm proud that I'm not prejudiced against someone for THEIR choice of who they love or make love to. I'm proud that I'm not some bigot that just lives to hurt and degrade others. I'm proud that I'm not a despicable human being like you!

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