Are my gf's odd sexual idiosyncrasies signs of previous sexual abuse?

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My gf (22) evinces a strong aversion to all types of sexual foreplay. She will occasionally engage in foreplay if I press the issue, but she remains clearly uncomfortable with it.
When the mood strikes, she most often prefers to immediately engage in intercourse. Though even then, she will only have sex in a "spooning" position with me behind her. I've convinced her to try out a few different positions, but she clearly didn't enjoy herself.
Additionally, while I was innocently watching a documentary on primitive tribesmen living in the amazon region, she became very agitated when she saw them casually going about their business naked. Finally, she began insisting that I change the channel, which I refused to do.
She ignored my questions about why innoncent nudity upset her so much, finally running out of the room in tears.
She rebuffs my every attempt to discuss these matters. We regularly engage in sex several times a week and other than the issues detailed above, it's pretty normal
My question is as follows: is this behavior indicative of previous sexual abuse, perhaps when she was younger?

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  • Acerbic
    11 years ago

    Maybe, maybe not. It's hard to say whether or not she's experienced sexual trauma or if she's just extremely modest in that way. You're in a bit of a catch 22, it seems. The only way for you to find out is to talk to her about it, but you can't push her into the conversation if she's not ready to have it with you or it may drive her away; if she was abused, it's most likely something she's very uncomfortable talking and even thinking about. Either way, I think it's best to err on the side of caution with matters such as this, so try to be as understanding as you can and perhaps attempt to avoid the things that make her uncomfortable until you know. Eventually, when she feels comfortable and safe enough opening up to you, she'll probably tell you if something did happen.
    Best wishes,
    ACE

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I don't think so? Just sounds like she's sexually conservative. I get uncomfortable when chicks pop up naked on the screen with my bf around. I'm a tad conservative myself. I do switch up postitions, but some positions just feel better than others! I do just think she's conservative, and if that's the case she will take alot of warming up. But it's still a possibility ot get her to explore more

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  • Imposturously_yours
    11 years ago

    I don't know, I'm not a psychologist to offer an opinion, especially based on a few examples. But.. there's DEFINITELY something wrong there. Unfortunately -it's not something you can discover, unless you can convince her to see a therapist.

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  • Alex_Gee
    11 years ago

    I agree with Acerbic here. Bottom line is u might never know and she probably wont wanna discuss it if shes been a victim. U just need to be understanding of her position and even if she was abused, just respect her limits now and be happy with what shes willing to share with u now. It might be that the more comfortable she gets with u she'll open up about stuff if she has been abused. Just dont ever ask her if she was a victim because the 1 thing thats sure to make her clam up and reject u is if u treat her like shes different or its her fault. I was abused when I was young and I've also been in incest relationships and the one thing that makes u feel like shit is when people treat u like a fuckin freak without ever trying to understand why, so be careful about jumping to conclusions with her. Like Acerbic says - she might just be modest and not comfortable with blatant displays of sexuality but u cant risk being pushy about it or she'll leave u. Axxx

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