Are my conversational skills normal?

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Hey, I need some advice.
So I'm good at public speaking, writing, reciting speeches and other things regarding taking ideas and putting them into words, except, when I'm speaking person to person.

I have a hard time communicating with people when it's a one on one conversation. I get flustered when they are asking me direct questions or making remarks of any kind. It's like, I'm not smart or confident enough to come up with a response.

Its frustrating to me because if I can write a speech and recite it in front of a crowd, why cant i have a simple conversation with another person? It feels confrontational and I start to stutter and feel like I have to tread lightly and carefully choose my words, though, no words come to mind.

In the end, I never get my point across in these personal situations. It is destroying my relationships with others and hurting my self esteem. My problems persist until I can open my mouth about it and come out with the right words.

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  • scumfuck
    7 years ago

    You could try doing cocaine, trust me, you will feel like Jimmy Fallon. Your brain functions super fast, and everything will be clear in your head. I'm not trolling, I think it might help you alot.

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  • Murun
    7 years ago

    I was just about to recommend a small pinch of amphetamine, but noticed the poster above has beaten me to it but with cocaine.
    Phet's far cheaper though, and the effect lasts longer.

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  • Bluberry
    7 years ago

    What if while you're in a public speaking situation and someone in the audience asks you a question, do you still get flustered or can you answer it well?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Not if I've already prepared answers for the questions. It will catch me off guard if I wasn't expecting the question though, then I become flustered yes, but hat rarely happens because I'm good at preparing.

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  • jethro
    7 years ago

    So what's your point?

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  • Jellypop
    7 years ago

    I'm the same way, but unlike you, I'm not good at public speaking, writing, etc... I don't have any friends because of it. I find drinking some alcohol before going into a social situation helps me, but I wouldn't recommend it or any type of drug, because it could very easily turn into an addiction, especially if those sort of addictions run in your family.

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  • Smokey1D
    7 years ago

    It's very common to not feel sure about what to say in conversation and to doubt ourselves. Practice is good and like everything - the more you practice, the better you get. Listening is really important. Try to relax and not feel judged - this is pŕobably someone who likes you and can overlook some clumsy starts til you get the hang of it.
    Watch some soàpies - see what the characters say and talk about..they're often a really good reflection of real life conversations - just a bit more dramatic.
    Good luck.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Just take a genuine interest in the other person and make sure they feel important. You do these two things and they'll love you.

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