Are most sensitive, caring, affectionate guys like this?

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I have so far been in two relationshios. Both of the guys were very loving, caring, thoughtful and affectionate. For a number of reasons which I will not go into I broke up with both... Neither of them took it well, refused to accept the break up, and would not give up trying to get me back. Both tried to make me feel guilty for leaving them,and both tried to make me feel sorry for them in order to try and get me to stay.

I am attracted to affectionate, caring, loving guys. Is this what most of these guys are like?

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  • TwoThumbs
    9 years ago

    No...but you sound young. Hence asking a question like this. No. All guys that are sensitive and caring aren't insecure. Obviously...that wouldn't make any sense at all. But it sounds like you could do more to let a guy know that its not going any further.

    I'm a sensitive and caring guy...and I'm madly in love...but if that ended for one reason or another....I'd be fine. I'd be hurt for a while maybe even crushed...but I'm also aware that I'm a good guy and I have a lot to offer.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    9 years ago

    You're attracted to guys that are ''caring and sensitive?''

    First time I've EVER heard that come out of a woman's mouth.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Sounds like you are also attracted to very immature guys. Trying to get an ex back by trying to make her feel sorry/guilty for them is exactly backwards in reality and childish in the extreme.
    There are plenty of mature sensitive guys out there, but they may not all be as easily manipulated as the type you seem to prefer.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      9 years ago

      This is the kind of stuff I need to hear. I am dealing with this situation right now and I am accused of being the manipulator although I've made my beliefs and intentions perfectly clear in this case... I'm being told that my unwillingness to reconcile is due to my childishness rather than my STATED reason (that I respect myself too much to be physically/verbally abused and that the physical abuse is still fresh in my mind despite it having happened 6 months ago).

      Any take on my situation?

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I'm a bit confused. Do you want to reconcile or not? There really isn't anything one can do if the other party doesn't want the relationship to continue. Talking, couples therapy, nothing, will do any more than prolong the inevitable.
        It's so much easier to just call it quits, before the ugly scenes turn 2 people into enemies.
        I lost 2 wives I loved dearly because they wanted me to live the white picket fence, 2.3 kids and a minivan life. I knew I couldn't do it, so rather than several years of us all being miserable, I ended things quickly and without fuss. It hurt. It hurt like hell, but it was better than the alternative; years of ugliness.
        Good luck and remember; your sanity is more important than some injured feelings or a failed relationship.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          9 years ago

          If you'll look at the post above this, you'll understand why I must refrain from answering your question.

          Anything I say to you about it at this point will provoke further abuse, including the original message. Thank you for your advice.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            No abuse and please csn you please stop

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Well if you would just talk and be just a civil talk and not get so upset

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Your comment will probably lead me to get another question. Are all loving, caring, affectionate, guys easy to manipulate :(
      I do not seek guys who are easily to manipulate!

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Let me put it this way, though I've not dated any guys, I do not believe all loving, caring, affectionate, guys are crybaby wimps. Some actually have a backbone, though it seems you haven't met any yet.

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    Yes - didn't you know?

    All guys are one big grey homogenous lump that can easily be summed up in short, pithy statements.

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    Of course, thats a normal reaction. Especially for senstive guys, not to mention girls too. Love is worth fighting for is it not? Of course he won't give up without a fight. Hell naw.

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    • (s)aint
      9 years ago

      Eh? You should respect if the other person says it's over and besides who in their right mind would ever BEG someone else to take them back? :S

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      • DubstepismyMJ
        9 years ago

        someone who's cheated probably.

        but I must admit, OPs ex handled it pretty immaturely. probably young, who knows. but the intention is clear, he wasn't going to give up without a fight. and I respect him in that sense.

        I would regret it, if I didn't give it my all.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          There was no cheating involved at all. Both guys are/were in their early 30s...

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  • dameda
    9 years ago

    It's because you act like a whore.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm the sensitive type and my policy on people is "if you don't want me around, I don't want you around."

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    It probably has more to do with being young and inexperienced than being "sensitive and affectionate".

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      They are both in their 30s

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    There are guys who are caring who are not clingy and have insecurity issues. It sounds like these guys cared most about their neediness.
    It takes time to get to know anybody, but there are lots of guys who care about others who are also strong minded and don't get their pussy hurt over not getting what they want.

    Get to know people first and people who are needy are always going to be a problem.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Its not because they were sensitive, caring or affectionate, its because you broke their fucking hearts. People tend to freak out alittle when they give their everything to someone and have it thrown back in their face. By the way, its very rare to find a guy who's sensitive, caring, considerate and what not, so you made a big mistake breaking up with them.

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    • DubstepismyMJ
      9 years ago

      Rare? Nah. There is plenty. They probably just don't meet your standards.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Meet my standards? Haha, I've been dating and living with an incredibly considerate, caring, sweet guy for over a year now. They are rare to find, I'm just lucky I found one. Most guys (ones myself, family and friends have met or dated anyway) are insensitive, inconsiderate, anti commitment douchebags. Don't get me wrong, so are most females, so I guess decent human beings in general are rare, but you're wrong, they are rare.

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        • DubstepismyMJ
          9 years ago

          I am truly happy for both of you. that's great.

          though just because the people around you have dated douchebags, it doesn't mean "most guys" are. like, do you honestly believe what you have just said? its pretty vile.
          that's like me saying "most girls are sluts". stupid right?

          it only means your friends and family have terrible taste in man and/or have standards that are too unrealistic.

          but I will say its rare for someone to have all the package.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            My opinion is based on personal past experiences and the personal experiences of those around me. Do I know some women who have decent boyfriends/husbands? Sure I do. Did they have to date several assholes before actually finding said decent guys? Yes. So for everyone one decent guy I know, I know another 10 douchebag guys. So yes, in my opinion, MOST, not ALL, guys are douchebags, and finding a decent one is rare! Okay? Jesus.

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            • DubstepismyMJ
              9 years ago

              Well maybe its because i live in Canada as to why I disagree with you.

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