Are men intimidated by women in men's clothing?

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So, I get it. People use He/She/Mr./Mrs. to identify people on the fly. And they make those judgements based on appearance 99% of the time. Personally it's not a big deal to me what people use when they see me. I don't get offended and I make that pretty clear by keeping a friendly nature even when they use Mr. on me and glance at my driver's liscence or ask my name. I say it's ok, or it doesn't matter and carry on conversation like normal.

I am a female, genetically. I got female parts and stuff.
However I dress how I feel most comfortable and in what I like the look of most on me. That happens to be men's clothes 99% of the time. I don't have the assumed shape that women have and every time I dress in women's clothes I always feel....awkward. Strangely, like as if I were cross dressing or wearing a costume.

Now, this isn't really about the way my body is. I know I don't got a swimmer's bod or an hourglass figure but really. Idc. I'm not depressed about it, I never felt the need to change. I go to the gym every week and maintain a rather average body weight for my size, nothing too special. That said I do feel like a squash when wearing women's T-shirts. Most are designed for a slim figure with noodle arms. My arms are too muscular to look natural in them, my stomach too round to be attractive in the close fitting cut. It's just, it's not attractive for anyone involved.

So I wear men's clothes. I love um. The way they hang, the comfortability, sure I have to get awkward sizes and meticulously find one suited for my short stature but when I do I really do feel happy about how I look. My confidence bursts and I feel more like myself, not like an idiot in a clown suit.

However I do notice the reactions people give me when I do. Most don't care. They're just doing their job they don't really give shits about the person coming in to buy shit and leave. But occasionally, and I notice this happens way more with men. People give pause and apologize awkwardly and feel flustered when they glance at my driver's liscence or ask my name. And I assure them it's all good, after all it's not their fault I dress like a guy. I only wish I could change my name or something so people don't have to react like that and we can just have a normal conversation :)

Oh right, the question.
I have a few. What really goes through you guys' mind when you come across someone like me? Are you really disgusted or do you just feel awkward making that kind of mistake? I mean surely wearing certain clothes shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable, I chose those clothes knowing how I look and I'm very aware I seem male on first glance. I specifically don't care what you call me. He/she/it. Doesn't matter to me. I'm just me. My qualities aren't defined by my pronouns. :3

I don't really think men are "insecure" about it by the way. Buzz words. Hey it worked didn't it? Well...some might be, those who demand that all women wear THIS or THAT and must sex men! lol. I'm not talking to you for sex, my friend. Especially not in Target or something. I'd wait till you knew me past my pronouns ;D

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  • LMFAO_1
    8 years ago

    I don't get why anyone would feel intimidated. The only reason to get flustered when they find out you're a women is becuase they hope they didn't offend you by initially assuming you were a man. (Some people would get really offended by that)

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  • Myghoul2099
    8 years ago

    girls do way too many social experiments. like lady gaga dressing like some greasy tony montana is fucking disgusting, plus her fixation on an 80 year old man (tony bennet, who i wouldn't be suprised if he fucked her multiple times).

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  • Bashful835
    8 years ago

    Well. Intimidated I don't think so. Most men when they find out their more embarrassed than anything. As long as your happy with yourself then there shouldn't be an issue. By reading your post in assuming your not in a relationship right now. I'm not sure if your seeking a relationship is the reason for the post but you need to find the man who accepts you for you. Try looking at it from the other side a man who looks like a women and does dress feminine that's a whole different story then, or a man who looks like a man but want to dress in feminine cloths, there's the real problem. Today's society stereotypes people way to much and need to accept people for who they are or don't ridicule someone because of the way they dress . Don't bash someone because of the way they dress whether in a male way or female way. . I'm a man who looks like a man and I enjoy wearing skirts and heels but can't go into public without getting ridiculed. There's a problem, especially when people don't know your desires and can't accept it. I would hope that someday people stop this awful behavior. I wish you luck finding balance. Feel free to comment. Maybe we can correspond with each other.

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  • ThisIsTotallyNotMe
    8 years ago

    that was a very long post. as a male no i do not feel intimidated. but if i made the mistake of thinking you were male then found out otherwise i would feel embarassed. there is no way for me to know after just meeting you that you dont mind being mistaken for a male. and so i would worry i offended you.
    so dress however you want, i dont care

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  • BigRascal
    8 years ago

    I quite like it but then I am a man who wears ladies' shoes. Maybe we could swap clothes and play dress-up together.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I couldn't read that tome, but to answer the question no, certainly NOT intimidated.
    If anything, I feel pity that anyone could be that unhappy with who they are, that they feel the need to wear the uniform of someone they are not.

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