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So maybe this is a stupid question, but there are always so many jokes and stories and things based off of how happy women are getting men "whipped" with marriage. Is it just fun to joke about with some true undertones, or is it actually true that men are just in it for sex or because it's a big mistake that they didn't realize?
Depends on the man, depends on how a woman treats him I suppose. Depends on how dependent their relationship actually is. See what others has to say..
U know honestly I have wondered that same thing a time or two myself. Personally I think it boils down to the individual and their perception of marriage. I think ideally that both people should have the same beliefs and values in reguard to relationships,sex and marriage. 98% of the time they dont...but dont realize it before its too late. Personally for me I deal with my perception being too old fashioned and Im not old. I struggle with that same comment from my boyfriend. He says he is whipped all the time...it bothers me. I ask him what exactly is ur meaning of whipped...when I think of that word instantly I think abusive. Controled. Dominated. Inferrior. I dont treat him any of those ways. So I get pissy when he says that to me...how the guys tease him that he is whipped cause he chooses to come home after work instead of having a few beers with them...to me that isnt whipped that ultimately is still all personal choice. He still chooses. He chooses to be home with me and the kids...he chooses family and commitment and avoiding issues. I tell him well that is sad that ur co workers have that perception of our relationship cause if they think that then how much value are they holding in their own relationships? yet they bitch all the time cause their wives or girlfriends are always bitching at them or dont give them sex anymore. Well thats the duh in the whole story. When u dont value ur relationship with someone ultimately they feel that...they become responsive to it..because it hurts then after awhile they get knumm to it knowing that it is that way and choosing to tolerate it. I want my life to be valued. I choose not to control anyone nor do I like being controlled. If u want to control something...get a frickin dog!!! People change,thats why its important to communicate all the time. express to them ur feelings and then give them the opportunity to look u in the face and say I know that bothers u but I dont give a crap...then the ball is in ur court. choose to tolerate it or choose to change ur position in that situation. the joke is on anyone that thinks that they are whipped or controlled. u are only treated the way u allow them to treat u. unless u are chained up somewhere in a dungon and someone is force feeding u then u arent controlled. u always have a choice...always.
well its up to you if you want to wait to see if he truly wants to be with you. personally i wouldnt wait. i hate games. i think if you really like someone and want to be with them then you would. its wrong to keep someone on a leash like that, making them wait to see if they still like you. i would dump him and enjoy the single life and who knows, you might find Mr Right when you least expect it. and also you dont need the stress of wondering whether he is going to stay loyal to you while you are at college. this is an important time in your own life and to have that hanging over your head is a massive distraction and i dont think he is worth it. if you are meant to be together then you will be together.
i will tell you a story about my husband and i. we met the first time when i was 16 at a bar and i was with a different guy. we didnt see each other for 2 years then one night at that same bar, we bumped into each other. we exchanged numbers and it took us nearly 3 months before we caught up again. when we finally caught up, i never looked back. i knew he was the one and i wasnt even looking which is probably why it took us so long to see each other again. and the reason why we got in contact was because one of his friends kid "accidentally" called me from his mobile. so i think it was fate.
i dont believe in accidents. everything happens for a reason and i think you having trouble with your boyfriend just before you start college could be a sign to maybe cool things off for a while?
i think young love doesnt work out because they loose their virginity to one-another so they never had a chance to be with anyone else and some people regret not having more of a sex life later on in their lives so they start getting unhappy and / or cheat or just break up to explore other posibilities.
for couples to get bored of each other is their own fault really. any relationship is hard and needs to be worked at. you cant be together for a long time and not expect things to get stale. you need to keep up the spark and keep doing different things with each other.
Ok this is going to be fairly crude and people WILL disagree. although I'm not old at all, and haven't really experienced a whole lot of ''life experiences'' yet but what I've observed is that, men and women who are married and are in their 40's, they seem to get bored after awhile. And for men, LOOK AT THEIR WIVES (who are in their 40's, 50's etc)...would you think they're happy?! Yes, maybe at times. But no, not really. And that's why you get men cheating all the time. They have to look at her all day and they get sick.
Just my opinion.
Well, see, that's what I mean. What if the wife has a great personality? I feel like I could be that kind of woman, but I don't want it to be an automatic "Well, I've been married to her for so long and she's starting to lose herself physically. Next." You want a woman that isn't as physically attractive but will go the extra mile to make you feel good, or do you want a physically attractive woman that'll bitch at you with no end? I don't know any woman that still looks like a 20 year old by the time she's 40.
I'm married and would never want my husband to be whipped. I've never desired to carry my husbands balls in my handbag.
I'm not married but my best friend is, and he says it's the best thing he ever did.
its not about being whipped, its about commiting yourself to someone you love for the rest of your life. a lot of people marry the first person they fall in love with and the majority of the time, its not a good idea because they split up not long into their relationships. some guys stay because of the kids if they arent happy too. but really, it is the individuals choice to stay in that relationship. my brother in law always complains about his wife because she really is a nasty peice of work but he stays because of the kids. he is an alcoholic and she is always high on pills and she drinks a bit too. they are as bad as each other and would be perfect together but their unhappiness is actually starting to hurt their kids. one of them is 10 and he has had depression since he was 8. so to stay in an unhealthy relationship is just wrong and why people do it? i have no idea. its not such a bad thing if there arent any kids involved.
That's something I'm worried about. I'm getting to a point where there will be massive changes in my life that involve going to college and moving out. My boyfriend and I want to make it work and we've been dating since we were 14 and 15. Why do I hear so many stories about young loves not working out later in life? What goes wrong?
Nothing better than a good one or worse than a bad one. I've had both, it just takes work. BTW-I love being married!
It's true, some men are unhappy in their marriages; just like some women are unhappy in their marriages.
That generalization is too simplistic to be applied to all marriages.
My husband loves being married to me, and he tells me so every day. He never makes jokes about our marriage. (We've been married for four years, and together for 9 years.)
Marrying my wife was the best decision I ever made. I often comment that I am lucky because I married my best friend.
Marriage, it's only good for taking what the man has by divorce.
Do you know that a step mother can try get custody of a man's biological child just because she was married to him? I mean, what the hell?
I will never get married, never. I don't trust society or women enough to gamble my belongings when I'm older by marriage.