Are many teens good with their parents?

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I'm wondering if it often happens that teenagers are unhappy with their family because they have some or a lot of problems with their parents and if a well functioning family life does exist anywhere in which every family member or just the teenagers are good with their parents.

I'm 17 and for example I've got a lot of issues with my parents because it's very hard to communicate with my father and my mother is an alcoholic so I withdraw and give them the cold shoulder. For most time I'm by myself and try to avoid conversations with my parents and when I start one it only concerns the lunch or other unimportant stuff. What's sad about it is that they do not even recognize my behaviour with which I try to show them that they do something wrong but they think that everything is allright and (I suppose so) that I am just the way I am - liking to be alone. I kind of feel unimportant to them because they have no interest in anything I do. They just ask random questions like "Going to the gym? and I say "Yep." and thats it.

So I wonder if there exist cool parents who are more intelectual and have hobbies like reading or doing sports and are really interested in what their kids are doing and try to integrate themselves into the teens' life whereupon they do something together and create a good family and if this is more likely to be the rule or exception.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Yes, active alcoholics don't make the best parents. I used to go running and bike riding with my father.

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  • Avi
    9 years ago

    I would say that 70 percent are bad.I'm like you when it comes about these.My mother reads,but she's really bad.I'm fucked up because of her.
    My grandmother is the nicest person you could meet.She has always been.Still,I don't get it how from such a kind person,my mother is so bad.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I had a hard time in the majority of my teen years, to even when I was a kid. It was largely due to an untreated neurological condition.

    I had a hard time opening up to my family. I never felt fully accepted with them, so it was almost as if I was acting in a role. I couldn't open up on important/serious stuff.

    I'd say that in a way, having parents who don't seem interested in your life is far better than having family members who are very nosy and obsessed with what is going on in your personal life. While it isn't as unpleasant as it was when I was younger, every now in then it will happen. It's very irritating.

    If my father had lived, I probably would've had a cool parent in him and my mother probably would be like how she has become, with social anxieties. My father seemed like a cool guy. There's a lot that we would've had in common now.

    With your parents, it might not necessarily be that they don't care about you. They might just be emotionally reserved. Why don't you suggest that you have family time together. You could all go out somewhere or stay indoors and spend time together.

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    • HeNN1diesdas
      9 years ago

      At first thanks for your sympathy. :)

      It's not like I've never wanted to do something with them or even now but they were acting so bad that I don't like these people anymore. This may sound a little bit weird because they are my parents but they have really hurt me that I became kind of numb and emotionless by doing what they did and still do. I laugh, I still have fun when I'm with my friends and I can be sad but regarding them I just don't give a damn about anything anymore. So they have made me develop a huge disklike for them.

      I would like to think they are just emotionally reserved but they really make another impression.. if we suppose that we really do something together they would still annoy me. And in the end there will nothing change I think because we won't do it often enough that it makes it's effect, my mother is going to keep drinking her shitty alcohol and my father is not going to stop her from it by like putting pressure on her, advising her with a self-help group or something. I have to announce that she's not a bad person because she goes shopping food and water for the family and works but I can't bear her if she keeps drinking and just pretends, like my father, everything would be fine.

      It's very difficult and even more difficult to describe because it seems so complex to me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm not sure if its just because my mother had me when she was 17, but she's always been like a friend to me aswell as a mother. We laugh at offensive jokes together, go shopping together, and discuss anything and everything. I'm turning 20 soon, and moved out of my mother's place when I was 18. Not because I wanted to leave, but because I wanted to live with my boyfriend. We still have supper with her as often as once a week. Shepretty cool mom, she's into Stephen King books and super healthy eating. She also works in a bar as the manager. She's getting married in march for the first time ever.

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