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I'm 18 and have never been in a relationship or even kissed a guy. Is it because I'm flatchested? I'm 5'4" and barely have any boobs (I barely fit into an A-cup.) The thing is, I'm naturally skinny. I'm not ugly and I'm not fat, so why is it so hard for my to find guys? Is it normal that guys only appreciate big boobs?
If you already know you are pretty, why are you even asking this question? Every woman in the magazines and on TV doesn't really have boobs either, so you clearly know that you're not alone. By posting this question, you are just fishing for attention!! Maybe that's your problem; you are fishing for attention.
Boys look for someone who they can be friends with underneath all the sexual attraction. They don't like it if you're obsessed with the way you look.
I usually go for a cute girl in glasses before anyone else, but having a small chest isn't a problem either in my own opinion :p many guys out there find you to be incredibly beautiful, trust me.
No, boobs are not all guys look for.
The attraction you want is more than physical (although you do want that as well).
Boobs aren't everything.
Legs are great, so is the butt, and hair, and eyes.
Personally, I'm more of a leg/butt man. I see plenty of flat-chested women with awesome legs, and to be honest, I find that more attractive than the girls with large breasts.
I hope that makes you feel better about yourself.
Let's face it... if you're going fishing, you need to put some bait on the hook.
Boobs are probably your best all-around bait. All guys aren't crazy about them, but ALMOST ALL are. There are other ways to attract a guy. Play up any other good points you have.
A good personality is also necessary, but he will never know what your personality is like if he isn't attracted enough get to know you.
For an unattractive girl, your best bet will be to get to know a guy in school, work or church. Once he learns how nice you are, a relationship can build from there.
Someone above said to put on a FEW pounds. I agree. Some curves in the right places/proportions will definitely help.
I felt I was in the same situation as you 5 years ago. I too am an A cup and I had that in my head that every guy preferred the moderate or big boobs. The media and how men gawk at women with a big rack creates that impression in our heads. She may have boobs and look pretty but the personality is what matters. A bad or rough personality turns every guy off (i.e. she's boring, not intelligent and keeps making bad habits).
I met my boyfriend during high school. We didn't see each other much and my parents were quite strict on me on having a bf (boys mainly). I wasn't allowed to have one until after high school but I did anyway. The only thing that kept me with him was that we could talk to each other and he loved my personality and I loved his. He didn't look at my lack of boobs to determine if I was a potential partner or not. I do cry about it to him now a days yet he always says that he loves me for who I am and loves other parts of me that make me me. And he's the type that likes a handful or small/flat boobs.
If a guy doesn't appreciate you because you don't have what he wants. Don't hang around him. There is always a guy out there who will love what you have and tell you that your boobs are not the only thing that keeps him with you but everything about you is what makes him want to keep you in his arms and dear to his heart.
There are many guys out there that ain't picky and or like them small or extra small. They are shy to admit it or you just don't see them gawking at your beauty. I never see a guy gawking at me or checking me out, but my boyfriend tells me that he has to piss other guys off who are looking at me all the time and that I definitely get checked out quite a lot. I find it bizarre but at least I found my guy. You will find yours and he will love you no matter what!
The politically correct thing to say would be something along the lines of "it's the inside that counts" and "I go for personality" etc. That definitely holds true after you've established contact with someone, but at a first glance it's all about physical attributes.
I tend to look at the overall body-type first - fat, skinny, average, athletic. Then the face - eyes, mouth, nose, and then the ass.
Hence my personal preference is skinny to average/normal body-type, a face with big eyes and a small mouth, topped off by a medium-to-large ass.
Breasts were never that important to me at all, and judging from conversations with my friends only a select few seem to care about breast size.
Men are attracted to certain body parts for certain scientific reasons. Why they find breasts attractive is because they give more milk for a child. Believe it or not, men find hips more attractive than breasts, because it means more support during pregnancy.
But in all reality, you can still get a guy. Those only dictate which partner a man might be interested in, but it doesn't choose who he'll be with.
most guys do but i dont care if i had a girl friend that was flatchested heck, i wish i had a girl friend but i wont because im just really shy Guy
You're not ugly. It's not because you don't have breasts. You're fine. If you feel insecure, there is always the option of implants.. but the best thing ever is loving yourself just the way you are. Think about it this way- if you love yourself for you, other people will too. If you don't, why would anyone else?
Guys like all sorts of things. Not all guys like the same thing. Lucky for you, since you don't have boobs- there are guys out there who aren't into that! I know plenty of guys who like the small framed ladies like Kiera Knightly or Mary-Kate Olsen. And it sounds to me like you have more meat on your bones then those girls so that's a plus. You will find someone. Don't listen to these people saying it's because you're ugly. Or that guys only like breasts. That isn't true.
And you're young! You have all the time in the world my dear :)
Guys who obsessed with big boobs are looking for their mother and are dependent whiners. Butt men are submissive and will bore you after a while. But thigh men know where it's at, and will excite you, so wear clothe that show off your slender thighs, shave and lotion them.
I'm naturally thin with very small breasts, this hasn't stopped some men from checking and asking me out.
Personality, integrity, honesty, and my favorite openminded and accepting
guys like boobs but they have to be the right size i mean i like girls that wear a c cup size bra with nice rounded boobs that are not saging because saggy boobs is just ugly. no offense ladies and yes i am a guy.but i also look for the nice legs, hair, face, and body. i mainly like the super models but i still go out with other girls that are models as well but ill go out with you. how old are you?
I don't pay attention to that most of the time.. what i care about is there personality. Cause i don't want a snitch. If you know what i mean..
Doesn really matter as long as shes skiny,has nice eyes and at least ok hair its fine. N i have like a fetish for nice full lips... haha
It doesn't matter to me what size boobs girls have it's not all about that it's about whats on the inside if your a nice person don't worry there is someone out there for you ;)
No you might loom like your unapproachable. Open your self up and let people know your interested.
im a perfectly straight girl and i like boobs. im pretty sure guys will look for that in a girl alot more than other aspects though.
wow, for a moment i felt like i was reading about myself. i'm 18 and 5'4" and have never even been kissed and naturally skinny and have small boobs. haha. mine are probably not as small though. anyway back to your question, no, boobs are not all that guys look for. not all guys anyway. the fact that you don't get to have a bf is probably because you're either not out looking that much or you're shy or really picky. that's the case with my anyway.
hi im 18 too
and i have big boobs, but thats not how i get boyfriends, but it doesnt hurt.
Take a look at actress Keira knightley.She doesn't even have big boobs too but she is perfectly well.
I'm exactly your age and NO big boobs ain't always what guys look for, they could look for several things in a girl like the looks, personality, the things you'd have in common, etc. Surely you'd know all dat.
Don't worry though, I'm sure you'll find someone soon, you've still got your whole life ahead of you =]
Thankfully some guys are more into butts. I am also small, so I know how you feel. When I know a guy is all about the big boobs, I like to mention to him how they will be sagging in 20 years from now, and mine will still be firmly in place :)
No, as a guy with a smaller breasted yet heavy girlfriend, I am still happy with her. I care about her insides but it is nice to see bigger breast.
However, would a flatchested girl turn down a shorter man? We all have preferences and it is unfortunate that you are outside of one of the sets of "desirables."
look some of the boys about 80/100 like boobs and its kinda hard to find someone , just be yourself and guys will like u for who u ae and not what u have ok !!:) ps i hope tht makes u feel better
Boobs aren't all that guys look for. However, not fitting into an a cup is creeping me out a little. Nipples on a rib, eh? Could one find more meat on an x-ray?