Are bad relationships normal?

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I have 2 friends in 2 separate abusive relationships (mostly verbal, sometimes physical). They both need to vent when things go badly. I try to help. I've told them they should get out but they go back to their partners and the cycle starts again (happy make-up period, tension builds, then blow up).

My mother as well has recently gotten out of a bad marriage (verbally abusive) and she heard from the woman he was previously married to that he threatened her with a gun (yikes!).

The majority of my friends and family are unhappily coupled too. Not my words, they vent to me as well that they are unhappy.

Maybe I'm bad luck or I'm just focusing too much on the negatives around me, but it seems like bad relationships are the norm. Maybe it's easier to stay together because of the economy? It's driving me a little nutty being vented to so much. IIN?

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    Thank you :) It's nice to get feedback especially so quickly.

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  • cosmic182
    13 years ago

    " I hate you because I love you" love magnifies every emotion so things may appear to be really upsetting if someone you love does it but if some random person you didn't know did the same thing you wouldn't even care.

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  • Longdeyinying
    7 years ago

    Unfortunately, I would say this is not out of the norm. I have seen a growing trend lately of more "relationships" being flaked out on by people who have no sense of commitment and/or just love to play around.

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  • zenji
    12 years ago

    I think bdsm is the way to go if people want to power play. Non consensual behavior is always wrong. And waving a gun at someone is just sick and violent terrorism.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    In my case, the bad relationships I've had were my own fault. I choose badly and I let people act badly and I stuck around too long.

    I decided to take a year out of having anything but friendship. Three months left to go!

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  • theytookthisone
    13 years ago

    I'd say it is. People love to be miserable and don't want to end up alone so they stay with the manipulative bad relationships. Generally I would say it's "normal" because it is oh so common.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    unfortunately, bad relationships are common. but there's no need for them. be with someone you can be happy with.

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    I guess it's good to see what u don't want in a relationship! It's a pity these girls don't feel like they deserve better.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    There is a difference between normal, not normal and right and wrong.

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  • BfingIToucher
    13 years ago

    That's pretty sad. I am surrounded by mostly strong relationships, and I have one of my own, full of mutual respect, patience, and caring. The bad relationships I see in my close circle are the abnormal ones. I worry about how YOU will be affected by being the one everyone uses to listen, and how this will affect YOUR relationships. You will unwittingly become a part of the repeating cycles of abuse within theirs and that sucks. That's a lot to take on and obviously it will affect how you view (and perhaps create) relationships in your own life. My advice: there are good, healthy relationships out there (not perfect, but healthy). It's better to be alone than accept less. It's certainly cliche, but if you don't love yourself, or treat yourself with love, no one else will.

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89
    13 years ago

    I think bad relationships are the ones that stand out more, you can't exactly turn a blind eye to a friend who's crying over their other half again.
    And I think they're pretty normal too, I've had a few of those explosive relationships where you are arguing every five mins, I kinda just hope I don't settle down in one because they can be horrible.
    Unfortunately women don't tend to go for the good guys, I only seem to be attracted to the ones that treat me awfully.
    There's way too much divorce and seperation these days compared to 50 years ago, people just haven't got the patience and put up with the same crap as they did back then, our way of life is evolving and I'm afraid you have to get used to it!

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