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As a teenager who haven't really experienced anything too practical in life, such as university, marriage, losing someone dear or real committed love before, I want advice and wisdom from "life-veterans" so I get a better perspective of what life's all about... I don't want to regret my major life choices because I know I still have all the chances in front of me, feeling kinda fearful yet hopeful I guess about growing up.
A lot of the things that will drastically alter your life start as small decisions. Keep an eye on yourself and constantly reevaluate things. Don't let that cripple you but just take a breath once in a while and introspect.
You have to have balance between your core values and being able to grow, listen and change.
Know that everyone you meet can teach you something. Never dismiss a person because you think you're smarter or better than them. You can always...ALWAYS...learn something from anyone. They know something you don't. Listen more than you speak.
You're more likely to regret not taking chances/opportunity than foregoing one to, say, spend more time with your girlfriend. You have to live with yourself for your whole life while friends/girlfriends/boyfriends/bands/movies/etc are temporary and you shouldn't compromise too much for any of that.
Don't stay in a bad/abusive relationship just because it's familiar and you're afraid to be alone. Don't settle.
Don't do stupidly dangerous things like ride with a drunk/reckless driver, not wear your seatbelt/helmet to look 'cool', just don't take chances with your life like that. Ever. Speak up for yourself and others if you see dangerous stuff like this happening.
Woah thanks for that. So I suppose keep an open-mind for everybody and be an opportunist. I just want to ask how do you identify your own core value? Based on one's personality and their actions? Or more deep thinking and evaluating more than actions?
Well, there's certain things you're raised to believe in and for a lot of people they are good things like 'don't steal', 'lie', 'cheat', I mean have a good moral base that you stick to but don't be so rigid that you judge everyone else too harshly based on even the smallest transgression. At the same time, don't give yourself too much leeway simply because 'everyone else is doing it'.
Live your life for you but don't screw others over to do it.
Never accept a "no" from a person who does not have the authority to say "yes" Almost everyone in so-called authority can say no. If you get a no, find out who that person's boss is and see that person.
It's ok to cry if you're hurt, but not if you're crying because you want something. If you are, you'll be crying a long time
Never give a Hell's Angel the finger. Stay out of biker bars. Eschew tattoos -- they mark you for life.
Never take a proposition bet. You'll always lose.
Reno, Nevada is west of Los Angeles. You can win money in a bar on this one.
Always get two estimates on automobile work -- including one with 'aftermarket' parts. OEM parts are frequently 500 percent more.
Buy your tires on line and have them installed locally.
Use the best synthetic oil you can afford.
Never stop for hitch hikers. Carry a can of pepper spray. If illegal then carry a can of oven cleaner.
If pulled over at night by a cop, turn on the dome light and keep your hands on top of the wheel where he can see them.
Don't take any wooden nickels. Close cover before striking. Better yet tip number one: DON"T SMOKE. EVER
Expanding: Learn how to check the oil and fluids and air pressure in your car. Check them often.
Learn how to change a tire. It may save your butt if you break down in Harlem at 3 am.
Always sit in the last car of a train. It rarely derails.
Never bunk with a harmonica or bagpipe player.
Make your first date with any girl Dutch Treat. If she's OK with that it says plenty about her character.
Dont let yourself be blinded by knockers. Boobs are boobs.
Suppress unwanted erections by masturbating frequently. Before a date lessens the pressure immensely and keeps you from making a fool of yourself.
Keep it clean as a whistle or it won't get blown.
Don't carry condoms in your wallet. They go flat from the heat and pressure.
Carry a card in your wallet offering a substantial reward if it is found along with your phone number.It's an incredible bitch getting your ID replaced.
Don't ever joke about ANYTHING in an airport or on a plane.
Don't click on attachments in email. Stay away from any porn site. VIRUS.
Avoid cheap foreign aftershave. CHEMICALS.
Cultivate a taste for quality classical music by the masters and get some. Use it in the background when you cook Italian food for your female guests.
See above: Learn 5 Italian dishes and practice. It's not hard to do. Girls will be lining up at your door. I swear this is true.
Learn a few tender love phrases in either French or Italian example: amor vincit omnia -- "Love Conquers All" A few guttering candles and these phrases and Love is Yours.
Take care of your teeth. Don't let stupid bullshit ruffle your feathers. Take chances.
Education first!
When it comes to love relationships don't settle just because you're afraid of being alone. It's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person!
Yes! Take your education seriously and don't waste opportunities to gain experience. It's so much easier to gain experience and extra knowledge during school rather than just coasting by and being unprepared and less qualified than your peers after graduation. You're probably not going to be handed a job just for completing school, you have to set yourself apart. I learned this firsthand, I did well in college and legitimately thought I was qualified to work but once I got on the job I realized I didn't know shit. If I could go back, I'd know to focus more on practical skills more than just making the grade, I wish I would've volunteered, apprenticed or interned...something. I learned more in a month on the job than a year in school. Theory can only take you so far, it's good background but real life practice is very valuable.
Treat people all people with the up most respect. Girlfriends, parents, teachers, the asshole on your block... everyone. There's nothing worst then regretting this later. Push yourself, don't settle for less it might be hard but you can do most things you set your mind to.
My biggest piece of advice is to learn to be comfortable being by yourself. Being co-dependent is one of the most miserable things there is and can lead to staying in a bad relationship, either friendly or romantic. Never, never stay in a bad relationship.
Go out to a movie, dinner, community activity or something by yourself. Sit around your house or apartment just reading or watching television by yourself.
Become comfortable with yourself before you get into any kind of relationship. That's not say you shouldn't have friends, a boyfriend/girlfriend, but if you figure out who you really are at your core, you will be more apt to a person with the same values as you, which will make life so much easier.
I let myself get pushed into two horrible relationships. At the end of the second I spent the next three years by myself just figuring out what I want and who I really was. Now I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman who shares the same values.
I was only going to list one piece of advice, but my second would be to not beat yourself up when you make a mistake. Learn from it and move on as quickly as possible.
Third, if there is something you want to try, and it's safeish, do it and have no regrets about giving it a shot. If you don't like it you don't have to do it again.
Finally, don't worry about money and just live within your means. If you are financially responsible you will have what you need.
Good luck with your future.
I have a few pieces of advice some I know sound cliche but hey sometimes it's true, these are kind of my top ten things I always try to keep in mind.
1. Live as you wished to be remembered.
2. Find your outlet for emotions. Sadness and anger are diseases the more they stay in your body the worse it will be in the long run.
3. Fake it until you make it, if you want to be that nice "guy" then fake what you feel until the emotions are genuine. (I know this one sounds harsh)
4. Try not to cry in front of people, I know we are in that be who you are hippie bullshit decade but don't do it. It makes you look weak as a person. No one will ever say it to your face but they have no problem thinking it.
5.In your sadest moments try to smile, i know this one sounds really dumb but apparently it helps the chemicals that get produced in your brain that make you happy and well they make you happy quicker.
6. Have little mental conversations with your self NEVER OUT LOUD, this helps you check in with your emotions.
7. Get to KNOW people, like your family and friends... can you name both your parents favorite colors. Don't pretend you know someone until you actually do.
8. Find your self a small routine wether it's putting cream on your hands before you go out for the day or you always chew gum. This will become your constant. Change will occur your life will someday feel upside down this small gesture you do for yourself will help you stay calm.
9. That brings me to nine stay calm always, you freak out later but well the emergency is going on stay calm don't be that person you always freaks.
10. Lastly experience life, travel, strike a conversation with stranger, do something fun like go to museum. Become a well rounded individual the more you become well rounded the more you are prepared for what ever life chooses to through your way. Life is a game of luck but how you handle it is up to you.
These rules apply to both males and females especially rule number 4. I'm not sexist it's Justa weak thing to do no matter age, sex, etc.
You're a moist robot who can program itself to do great things. The power of habits will make you or destroy you: the sooner you make a habit of physical fitness and reading, the better.
Life is about individual choices and rolling with the punches.Nobody gets out alive. Life is difficult and it's hard. People will do things to you that will inspire and help you but also conversely people can and will do things to you that can hurt you and shock you to your inner core. Open up the Bible and allow God's word and truth to guide you it is the most invaluable tool a man can use and stay disciplined in reading. You will not be let down. Nobodies perfect. Stay humble, kind and remember that pride ruins you. It is good that you are asking people who are older than you for wise thoughts. That's a sign of someone on the right track.
Don't do drugs and don't have kids until you're financially ready. I don't do drugs or have kids but I've seen all sorts of horrible shit go down when others did drugs or had kids before they were financially ready.
Do not cancel on an going abroad / exchange studying abroad because of someone (e.g., having a boyfriend and deciding not to study abroad or accept a job abroad because of them).
Always remember, you only get one shot at life so don't waste it doing things you don't enjoy, or feeling ashamed or embarrassed about who you are. Live life to the fullest and remember, everyone is full of shit and none of us really has a clue what we are truelly doing in life.
If you're ball is to big for your mouth, it's not yours- dog of wisdom