Annoyed with the double standard for women's appearance

I tottlay agree! the double standard is fuckin stupid

i feel the same way. i hate the way guys try to make women look perfect, while they sit there and only take a shower like once a week.
like my ex.
and it is the fault of society, if we didnt have that view of the "perfect" woman, we wouldnt expect anyone to look like anything. and no those women are not loosers, they understand way more about this world than those jack ass guys do.
:)

oh fuck off. it goes both ways.
There are dudes that will never even get GLANCED at for what they wear and how they look. this problem stretches across the board. Get off your pedestal.

I agree with you completely, it is total BS. Thank goodness not all men are like that. I dated a great guy who hated it when I "suffered for fashion" because I was just conforming to that stupid standard of society. We spent a summer camping/hiking, not taking showers for weeks and wearing filthy gear and he still told me everyday how beautiful I looked.

That's what real men do =D

I'm just sick of hearing women blaim their lame lives on society instead of accepting that they are loosers.

I know heaps of intelligent, successful and beautiful women and none of them complain. The only women who complain are the ones who are lazy and cannot take responsability for their shit arse lame lives.

Women are valued by how hot/sexy they are.

Men are valued by how much money/power they have.

Both aren't fair but it's never going to change so I suggest you play along.

If you're a fat girl, lose weight.
If you're a broke guy, get a better job.

I'm a man and while both sexes have their justifiable lamentations, it is IMO much easier to be a man. I'd HATE to be a woman. Once their looks fade they got nothing.

Men get better looking as they age and women get worse.

Urg, dress the damn part. I am a guy and when I go out with my girlfriend, I always dress up but she does not.

Sure, it annoys me but double standards when it comes to this are a way of life. Let me prove it

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Women want to be treated fairly and equally. You want the equal pay for a job, the same high end jobs that men typically have and to not be harrassed at work.

HOWEVER

I have yet to see a woman pay for the first date, ask a man out or god forbid, a one night stand. I have also failed to see a woman give up her spot on the lifeboat to save a man.

Face it, double standards are a part of life. I am white but I have accepted blacks calling me every racial name in the book yet I cannot say the "N" word back. I have accepted losing a job position because a well dress woman who is dumb as hell decided to flirt her way into "MY" job that I rightfully earned and deserved.

I have also seen druggies getting government assistance while a person suffering from Multiple Sclerosis is suffering without medical care.

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In conclusion, shut the hell up and dress the part. If you want to look like a slob, you have no right at all to bitch if no guy likes you or if you can only find an ugly one. Just dress the damn part and accept it.

Now if you excuse me, I have to go buy my fiance her maxipads because she asked and its me following yet another bullshit double standard.

Your right but why is it that if a guy doesnt have a really nice car or great job most women wont even bother with him, double standards are every where sorry

omfg seriously i hate people that do this all the fucking sympathy goes to woman and u all act as if it aint enough i mean ffs u girls hit us guys and if we hit back u go off crying complaining saying we shouldnt of hit u then u say we should all b equal well if you want equal men treat u as other men wich is hit u if u hit them
and go to any woman most of them will say woman are better than men
but if a man says were better than woman were in the wrong
even tho men are responsible for most things u use like electricity nd shit even the house u live in was made by men builders

It's not BS. And, it's certainly not masochistic. It sounds like you are upset by the fact that women are judged by their physical appearance disproportionately, when compared to men.

Sorry, but that's evolution. It is part of our nature. Men have always judged women by their physical appearance, across all cultures, throughout all history. To complain about this is akin to being upset about the sun setting, the rain falling, and the seasons changing.

Most women have learned that makeup and clothing have a powerful effect on men. So, they choose to dress up. Some spend hours doing so. But, they do so by choice. Nobody forces it upon them.

However, in various situations, men will indeed expect a woman to dress up. If she's a model, if she's representing a company, if she's going to an important social event, yes she's expected to dress well. Yet, nobody is forcing her to do so. In some settings, men are expected to dress well too, but it's nowhere near as demanding.

It sounds like you want the 'benefits' that dressing well (or looking attractive) can bring, but without exerting the effort, or having those qualities in the first place.

There are careers you can go into, in which dressing well is not as important. And, you can certainly find men who don't really care how you dress. Is that what you want?

As for wearing heels, I dance quite a bit of Salsa. I don't mind dancing with a girl who's wearing ballet flats, but in a social setting, I much prefer it if she is wearing heels. In fact, stiletto heels are the most common, and it is the girls who are most obsessed about the shoes--not the guys. Some will wear shoes that cause their feet to become painfully red and swollen, just because they like those shoes. But, they do so by choice.

Who wears ballet shoes on regular bases. However I have noticed women cloth are tighter and light compared to what men are allowed to wear. Those ladies at the dance in the sleeveless dress. Poor ladies. I am so glad I am a man. A fine one at that.

Being a girl is hard. -.-

This is where I stand: I don't want any man in my life that likes me for my freakin heels and the fact that I have a vagina. And all of you who think like this are sh*& heads. That's why you'll all end up 60 years old and alone. I don't give a damn what people think of me because I love myself and my t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers self. Plus most guys are douchebags anyway, so don't fret if they don't like you for that.

i don't know why other guys fixate so much on how a woman dresses, i, for one, prefer a girl in a skirt and t-shirt. and make-up is over-rated, it just makes a lot of girls look really fake.
and as for the double-standards for guys, most of them are more sensible than those for women, judging someone on close is slightly silly, but judging someone on their job or car is normal, because those are our society's judges of social status and women want to be with a man who is higher-up on the social scale

Plus, stiletto's cause knee, back, and neck issues.

I totally agree with you... but I also know that not all guys are like that. The ones I've been with prefer me without makeup and dressed in jeans. They've also said that girls who dress up like that are money-hungry. Um, as far as creams, I do know that I would like to look 30 when I'm 55 so I'm sticking with that one. But, don't do "things" if it's expected. Do them because you want to and ignore everyone else.

blah blah I still gonna nail the pretty one and not you

So you react in your life by what you see on YouTube? Step back and take a look at that....you are reacting in your life about what is going on in other peoples lives. People that you don't know, never seen before in person and have nothing to do with. I think dressing is not your main problem here....you are projecting. Projecting yourself into other peoples lives and making it real in yours. Who cares what John Doe says about Jane...what people do and say does not have to include you.....

While I think its dumb how much emphasis is put on appearance these days, I am not so sure that its accurate to call it a "double standard" anymore. Have you noticed the bill boards for men's cologne or underwear these days? Or have you never heard the saying "The clothes make the man"? In the 21st Century, men get the same crap that women do. Men are supposed to be "metrosexual" hunks with oiled up wash board abs, have great cars, a full head of hair and make tons of bank or we women won't look at them twice. And a well dressed guy with a great body will turn MY head, I freely admit. I once embarrassed myself by walking into a wall when I stopped paying attention because a hot guy wearing sexy clothes caught my attention. That doesn't mean I am repulsed by an average joe, but average joes look hot in the right clothes, too. So get over yourself and quit pretending everything's great for men and gawd awful for women. Good grief.