Annoyed by "too nice" guys

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Before you think "typical woman" I don't like "bad boys" either. What I mean by too nice, is that they treat me like a fucking baby! They talk all softly and avoid any controversial topics or jokes. it's creepy and annoying. it would be fine just in passing, but these men make it obvious they are into me, and act like this whenever they are around me. Maybe that is actually how they are, but I'm not. I feel they misinterpret my "girly yet quiet" disposition as "shy"- that is afraid to talk about controversial subjects, which is not like me at all. I am asocial, but when I feel socializing i enjoy harsher jokes- sarcasm, dry humor, etc. These men act as if they are walking on eggshells around me for fear of upsetting me as though i am some kind of delicate flower which is not the case. I end up feeling like i would be the one to hurt their feelings by telling them off, so I don't say anything. I don't flirt though. I am always polite, and I gues ssome people mistake this for me liking them, even though I am the same to everyone. I do not want a guy who never gets mad, that seems fake. Show your true emotions. It's like that scene from Tommy Boy, when the guy is on a boat with a woman he likes, and some kids at shore are yelling mean things to him. He tries to be polite in front of the lady, but it comes of that he is a pushover. eventually he stands up for himself, and even the lady does too. That is what I like to see of a man. not afraid to show his true opinions. if we disagree then we are not meant to be together. and if you are really a "super nice guy" then i am not interested!! Jeez it's annoying that I seem to attract those types because of how they perceive me. their personality of 'nothing bothers them' is boring to me and i just wish they would leave me alone.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago | pl

    I wouldn't think of that as being "nice", even. I'd think of that as being boring and patronising. It sounds normal to me.

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      BITCH, im not holding this door for you all days, damn.

      WAKE up whore, I made you eggs

      Bitch, say yes already, me knee hurts kneeling

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        Hahaha

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    The problem is that is sounds like you are putting out this "delicate flower" vibe. If you want a guy who's assertive you should maybe be more assertive. If you want a guy who's playful and that doesn't feel he has to walk on eggshells around you...bust his balls. Personally, my wife and I are real ball busters. We joke with each other and talk shit...but its because we're both comfortable with it. If you want a guy to feel comfortable doing that kind of stuff you need to put it out there.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      This is true. but I have always been very socially awkward... so I'm afraid to say things anymore because they come off the wrong way. so now I do give of those shy girl vibes i guess, but when i am home or comfortable around people i am anything but shy... it's really difficult for me to deal with people in general i guess. I do love when guys "play rough" so to speak, and i laugh when they do, which has gotten me the attention of these more outspoken men. that's really all i can do though. some people just cannot make jokes (ie. ballbusting as you put it), but that doesnt mean they cant enjoy them.

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    Gosh you'd be in heaven in my town there's assholes everywhere

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    I find this story quite annoying honestly considering I am one of those nice guys. What you're saying is, a guy who is really nice MUST be trying really hard not to upset anyone and that never getting mad means that they are fake? Could it possibly be those types of guys are simply that nice and don't walk around getting mad at little things that don't require a guy to show off his masculinity all the time just to impress people? This is some fairy tale assumptions right here.

    I'll be honest, few things bother me and I rarely get mad. There is a know-it-all making a scene over there? Not my problem. A friend keeps dating bad choices and people who don't really care about them despite a friend trying to help them out? Not my problem, I've tried to help but they have to help them self eventually, why get mad? Some person clearly trying to upset me over something petty? Why get mad, its clear that is what they want and anger all the time, to me, is weak. Some think strength is being outwardly tough all the time but to me, its knowing when to not waste energy letting people upset you. Its not flashy but it doesn't cause stress and waste MY time, therefore its the best style for me. I'm not saying I never get mad, but only when its required.

    Lastly, come back in 10 years when life happens and the tough guys are barking loudly but not doing anything except hurting people and the nice guys are treating people as they should, always paying bills and being the better person. Young people are the ones who fantasize about tough guys and then put up with mistreatment and run to their nice guy friends for support. Adults are the ones who truly understand and appreciate a guy who has manners and isn't trying to prove something.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Yeah, I didn't mean you have to get angry all the time.. I mean, I like it when a guy is not afraid to express his dislike of certain things, especially when we share that dislike. It shows our similarities and how we can get along. That might be weird, but I find disliking the same things just as important as liking the same things. I didn't mean someone volatile and ready to fight, just someone who is not afraid to admit when certain things bother them. And if nothing bothers you, great. But you ought to go after a girl who is like that too, not one you assume is like that

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Farts loudly

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  • Unimportant
    10 years ago

    I'd say I'm probably being "too nice" to most girls. It is, however, only because I'm not interested in them.

    Being nice is a way for me to show that by being nice to everyone I'm not being nice to anyone in particular, and therefore I'm showing that I don't prefer any of them over the others.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    10 years ago

    Get the fuck out,
    Get the fuck out,
    Get the fuck out my house, bitch.

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  • GreyWulfen
    10 years ago

    I think it's more your definition of "nice" that's wrong.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      It's really men's definition of nice. They think I'm a shallow bitch or something for not liking these types of men, who are just being "nice".

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